Father's Day & ResponsibilityFather's Day, Mother's day for these thoughts I could have used either. Only because Father's Day is around the corner, I'll start by picking on all too many Dads out there. As Father's you are stuck, yes stuck to be responsible for certain things. Just for kicks, let's name a few:
You get the idea. Moms this is your partial list also. Unfortunately too many parents out there ignore these responsibilities and many others. Excuses of being tired, it's tough, it eats up my time and 25 other excuses seem to be offered all too easily. All too frequently we hear it's not up to me, I don't care. That seems to be today's mind set. BP isn't responsible for the oil spill or the clean up. The local government, our Federal government, the tanker fleet, the distributor, the jig operators all ensure us it's not their responsibility to handle the clean up. I miss the days when in business and daily life folks would fess up, admit they made a mistake and then act quickly to make amends. Folks had some guts, some backbone. They did what was right. They didn't do what would get them elected again, get them to be the savior in the morning news, or take the easy out or even pass the buck to someone else. We need to adopt this attitude once gain. It is missing . It isn't being followed or taught to our children or grandchildren. Vic Johnson, one of my mentors, often lectures on how we are all responsible for where we are in life. Our decisions have brought us to wherever we are good or bad. Realizing this is the starting point for any personal growth. Admitting this is not always easy but it is a "must". Author/speaker Andy Andrews speaks of the "buck stopping here" which in its simplest form means any screw up and success is because of you. You are responsible either way. Dads for Father's Day, do some soul searching. Ask yourself where you need to step up and take some responsibility. It indeed can be tough . We are tough guys-right? Dig deep, admit you and only you are responsible. You made the choices. Perhaps you are now without work. OK, times are tough-no doubt about it but let's do a little masterminding. 1) How much training have you done on your own to increase your job skills, learn new concepts and to increase your value. 2) Have you known your job was shaky but stayed put because a job change, a career change would cost you money on the short run and therefore temporarily effect you lifestyle. 3) Did you hang onto your comfort zone too long ? 4) Were you out and out afraid to make a change. Did fear hold you back or is fear holding you back right now as you read this ? My Dad kicked my butt so many times growing up it wasn't funny but he drilled right and wrong in me daily. (Miss ya Dad) It's time to fix the screwed up values (if they are still out there), return to the basics, to stand up for our Country, our family, our God, the basic rights and wrongs we were taught. This thought process may not be "politically correct", some confrontation may be involved, we may have to make some changes but isn't it time? Time for a change. Time to get tough. Time to find yourself. Time to move ahead. Time to teach your children. Time to take control. Time to do what is right. Time to be a role model for your children. Time to be a role model for all children. Time to be Dad. Have a happy Father's Day. Enjoy your day. Love your children. Be with your children. Take responsibility! Doug Evans mailto:doug@discoveryourmissingpower.com" doug@discoveryourmissingpower.com PS Mom's I hope you can see this is all about you too! |