I'd like to tell you a story...

It's a story that you might find strangely familiar. Don't bealarmed.

Once upon a time, there was a man who was very attracted to aparticular woman.

At first, she was just another attractive woman... but the morehe got to know her, the more he began to feel attracted toher... and the more time he spent with her, the more thatattraction grew into a deep emotional attachment and affectionfor her.

But there was one problem.

As his emotional attachment grew stronger and stronger, he alsogrew more and more insecure.

Why?

Because he couldn't tell whether or not she felt the same waytowards him.

Sometimes she would say things like "You are so important to me"and "I'm glad that you're in my life"... but nothing everprogressed past the "friendship" stage.

There was an occasional hug, an occasional kiss on the cheekfrom her... and once she even held his hand for a long timewhile he talked about an emotional issue.

But something was wrong with the picture.

She just wasn't acting like a woman that was "falling in love".She was acting like a friend.

The insecurity that he felt became a spiral that amplifieditself... and the more insecure he became, the more afraid hegrew of "screwing things up" by kissing her or asking her to behis girlfriend.

Plus, the more insecure he became, the less time she seemed towant to spend with him.

After spending many days and nights obsessing over this girl,the man finally arrived at the conclusion that if she only knewhow HE FELT, that she would feel the same way.

So he made a bold move.

He TOLD HER how he was felt.

He confessed that he was in love, and that he would do anythingto be with her.

She looked at him with compassion in her eyes and said "Thankyou... I really mean that... but I don't want to mess up ourfriendship... you're too important to me...".

This only confused the man more.

He didn't know how to take it...

Did it mean that she really loved him too, but that she wasafraid of something?

Did it mean that she wasn't ready for a long-term relationship?

Did it mean that she didn't love him, but that she was trying togive him a hint?

Did it mean that he hadn't tried hard enough?

Did it mean that he needed to put everything on the line andREALLY let her know how he felt?

He finally decided that he couldn't go on like this anymore...he had to be with her.

He had to make sure that she knew just how much he wanted to bewith her... so he took a big step, bought her a symbolic gift,and wrote her a long, long letter... again confessing hisfeelings.

And then the unthinkable happened.

She didn't reply.

He called her three times a day for almost a week beforereaching her.

She made an excuse about being very busy, and said "I'll try togive you a call soon, I have to go"... and hung up...

....but he never got a call back.

Over the following months, the man tried desperately tounderstand what went wrong... and what happened.

THE END

OK, I'm back.

Now, wasn't that a sweet story?

Heart warming, huh?

I know, I should keep my day job, and not take up writingromance novels...

Now, let's talk about that story.

That story is basically a MYTH.

And I'm not talking about FICTION here.

I'm talking about a story that rings true for a great majorityof men. A story that is timeless. A story that resonates at adeep level because you can IDENTIFY with it.

And why does this particular story resonate for most men?

Because we've all been there in one way or another... at onetime or another... and many of us have been there OFTEN in ourlives.

Another thing that gives this particular story a lot of power isthe powerful negative emotions that it stirs... as a result ofthe powerful negative experiences that it reminds us of...

Stories and situations like this one really FASCINATE me.

They fascinate me because I see them as an opportunity toUNDERSTAND and SOLVE the puzzles that they represent.

In this particular situation I think there is a solution.

And it lies in understanding a secret that women know but MENDON'T.

And that secret comes down to the reality that if a woman isn'tATTRACTED to a man, all of his attempts to confess his love,convince her to like him, and court her BACKFIRE.

In other words, they not only DON'T WORK, they actually makethings WORSE.

In other words, the very things that a man does to try to make awoman LIKE HIM make her NOT like him. They make her run.

All those great intentions and emotional dedication actual causethe man feeling them to do things that make her go away.

It sucks.

And I hope that by explaining the process of how this happens toyou I'll help you avoid this painful situation in your ownfuture...

THE "INSTANT EWWW"

I'm always fascinated by the idea that we humans don't alwaysunderstand the message that we're communicating to others...

So often we think that because we WANT to communicate a messagethat others are going to NATURALLY understand what we're tryingto say.

Have you ever seen a guy in a foreign car that has wheels on itthat cost more than the car itself... with his stereoblasting... and a muffler that somehow AMPLIFIES the raw soundof the 4-cylinder motor...?

Have you ever thought to yourself "I don't think that car iscommunicating the message to women that he thinks it is"...?

Yea, I have too.

Well here's the deal:

If you do something to "let a woman know how you feel"... butshe isn't ATTRACTED to you, then it's going to backfire.

It's going to trigger a feeling that like to call the "InstantEwww".

The Instant Ewww is just as powerful as the physical andemotional response of ATTRACTION.

Once a woman feels it, YOU'RE DONE.

It's over.

It's like hammering a RAILROAD SPIKE into the coffin.

Once a woman feels the Instant Ewww, she will start behavingdifferently.

In short, she'll disappear.

So where did I get the concept of the "Instant Ewww"?

I got it from WOMEN.

I have actually heard SEVERAL women use the word "Ewww" whendescribing how they felt about a guy that was "confessing hislove"... of course, these were guys that weren't loved in return.

So what causes the Instant Ewww?

And why would a woman feel it towards a man who was trying to benice... a guy who was giving her a gift or telling her how hefeels?

Because if you think about it from HER perspective, you'llrealize that the moment a you do something to "confess", youhave created a TURNING POINT in the relationship.

Up until that point, you were harmless.

I mean, women always know how men feel.

She already knew you wanted her.

She knew it from the beginning.

But now that you've started pursuing her and talking about howyou feel, you've created a NEGATIVE TENSION that is VERYuncomfortable.

You've triggered an emotion that is repulsive to women. And itdoes repel them.

In summary...

You can't "make a woman like you" or "change how she feels aboutyou" by doing nice things for her...

Doing "nice" things for a woman who isn't attracted to you HURTSyou. It backfires. Worse, it creates the "Instant Ewww" feelingthat makes it so she'll NEVER like you.

Men make this mistake over and over again in life becausethey're doing what MAKES SENSE to them. They're doing it becausethey don't have an understanding of ATTRACTION.

I mean, If you have a friend, and you like them, and you want tomake them like you more... and you do some nice thing for them,they will probably like you more.

On the other hand...

If you have a woman that you "like" in a romantic way, and shedoesn't "feel it" for you, and you do something nice for herbecause you want HER to like you more, it will BACKFIRE... andshe will not only NOT like you more, she will most likelydistance herself from you.

Guys think that they need to communicate when they like awoman... as if that's part of the necessary process of getting agirl.

In their minds, it goes like this:

Like her>Tell her you like her>She likes you

Well remember... if you follow this pattern yourself with womenwho aren't ATTRACTED to you, then it's going to BACKFIRE.

If she's not into you, then it goes like THIS:

She thinks of you as a friend>You tell her you like her>She getsthe "Instant Ewwws" and never wants to be around you again...

THE ANSWER

There are really TWO answers to this problem.

The first answer is what to do if you're in a situation whereyou like a particular girl, but you don't know if she likes youback.

DON'T GET HEAVY WITH HER.

Don't buy her a big gift and write a love letter...

Don't send her ten dozen roses to her work with a not that says"From your secret admirer".

Don't call her three times a day.

And DON'T CONFESS YOUR LOVE for her.

If you want to know how she feels about you, KISS HER (and use"The Kiss Test" that you learned on my website and in my book).

As a rule of thumb, don't get heavier than HER. Use SIGNALS fromher to find out how she feels... and if you don't know how toread and create those signals, then LEARN.

Asking a woman if she's interested in your in a romantic way, orif you are "her type" will actually DESTROY the chances thatshe'll like you.

Really.

The SECOND answer is to not get into this particular situationin the FIRST PLACE. Avoid it entirely.

And how does one do that?

One does that by creating ATTRACTION from the beginning.

One does that by understanding the dynamics of how and why womenhave the physical and emotional response of ATTRACTION triggered.

One does that by knowing what you're doing FROM THE BEGINNING.

And what's the best way to learn THAT skill?

I thought you'd never ask...

The very best way to learn how to make women feel ATTRACTION foryou is to get yourself a copy of my eBook, Double Your Dating.

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And I'll tell you... it's not magic.

You don't have to be rich, handsome, or young.

And you don't have to be LUCKY.

What you DO have to do is LEARN.

It's a skill, and I honestly believe that ANY man can learn itif he wants.

But you're not likely to figure it out by "trial and error".Many of the keys to making women feel ATTRACTION aren't"obvious" at all.

In fact, many of them make no sense... and they're the LASTthing you'd do in a particular situation if you didn't know theSECRETS.

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