Many people buy books to find out "How to Attract the Perfect Mate." But I believe that finding the perfect mate is easy! What's hard is to know what your definition of perfection means, so you know what to look for in the first place! So, here is my step by step process for attracting the perfect mate:

Step 1: Make a list of the qualities you look fore in an ideal mate. Separate the list into four categories under these headings:

Physical, Mental, Emotional and Spiritual.

Jot down how your ideal lover will measure up in each one of these categories. Be sure to carry this list with you in your purse or back pocket for about a week, because there is no way you will be able to think of everything you want and need all at once. Remember, writing transforms your invisible thoughts, feelings, and desires about your ideal lover into concrete, physical reality - which is the first step you need to take in order to attract this person to your life.

Step 2: Put your finalized copy of the list on a beautiful, decorative background - and put it in a frame. Because one day, you are going to give it to your future lover, once you realize who they are. But be sure to keep it in a place where nobody else can see it, because you will only want it shared between you and your beloved.

Step 3: But before you put away your beautifully framed expression of love into a secret hiding place, look into the mirror, and use your list as a reference. Are you all of the things you seek in another person?

Here is an analogy to illustrate my point. When a person goes fishing, they generally use a worm for bait. But you wouldn't use worms for a mouse trap, would you? If you wanted to catch a mouse, you would use cheese! The same principle applies for attracting the right mate. First, you have to find the right bait, which means, becoming the "right" person who will attract the "right" mate. If you are looking for someone who is a loving person, give more love to others. If you are looking for someone who has a great body, start an exercise regime. If you are looking for someone who is generous, find a charity to sponsor and so on.

Step Four: At least once a day, say a prayer of gratitude for your ideal mate being attracted to you. Know in your heart that everything you are doing is working beautifully, and that everything will fall into place for you and your mate at the right time. While you are at it, tell your ideal mate in your prayers how much you love them, and how you are excited about meeting them soon. But don't judge the process as taking too long. Your future mate may have to go through certain experiences to learn and grow before they are ready to meet you.

Your subconscious mind will pick up on the messages you are sending, and assume your ideal mate is already a part of your life. In turn, you will take the appropriate actions (without your conscious awareness) to make your prayers come true! For instance, you may not be a party person - and a friend from work may ask you to go to a party. Normally, you would say, "No thanks, I think I will stay at home and get some rest tonight." But for some reason, you will feel like going. And when you arrive, who is the attractive person sitting at a table alone - sheepishly making eye contact with you and grinning?

Your subconscious mind will motivate you into a situation like this without your awareness! All you have to do is pray and forget about it.

Step 5: Forgive everyone in your past, including yourself. If you focus on negative energy, but wish to create something positive in your life - it will confuse your mind, body and soul about what to create for you. The turmoil inside of you will be a burden. So, choose to let go of the past in order to focus on all of the beautiful, wonderful and positive things in your life. What you think about expands, so be very careful and monitor your thoughts.

The human mind is the most powerful tool on this planet, but statistics show the average person only uses about 3% of their brain capacity. Albert Einstein was a genius, but he only used 7%. There are mysteries about the mind which will never be discovered. But the power of the mind is very real. Use this tool to focus on creation, rather than destruction. And always remember, you can create anything you want to in life, as long as you keep yourself centered. The same holds true for attracting the ideal mate. I did this very same thing to attract my mate, and we just celebrated our two year anniversary.

If you are a skeptic, try this exercise for three months, and see if it works! I want to hear your success stories!