There's no question that you need to rebuild your lifestyle after a separation. No doubt you will want your new life to be better than your married one. Life is unpredictable so make sure you have enough support from the people that you still trust. It is only a very close friends and family that can really help you at a crucial time like this.

Try and work out who the people are that you can really depend on for anything that may come up. After a divorce settlement you do not need to hang around with people who are going to be fake with you. To that is why it is crucial to have the right company in this difficult time of life. Keep ties open with the special people who will stick with you through thick and through thin.

There are people who disappeared when things started getting a rough in your life. Maybe they are close of friends of your spouse and you cannot really holding anything against them. On the other hand and then maybe certain people who have done the same for you. The only way you can find out who it is you could trust is to think rationally about the decisions these people have taken to affect the situation when you were down and out.

Honesty is the most important thing you should look for in a good friend. When you have good and honest friends you will have a warm and secure feeling. Do not be angry with friends when they are brutally honest. That is exactly the kind of friends you need. You do not need the people who talk sweetly and mislead you. On the other hand you do not need people who are so honest, or let us say heartless, that they hurt you with their crude comments on any given day. Be very careful of so called friends who carried deals from you to your partner and vice Versa. Keep your friends close and your enemies closer, as the saying goes. We do not mean to apply that you have constant confrontations with everybody that you suspect - instead, just be aware of who is what underneath the sheep's clothing.

Most couples who get separated tend to remain in contact with common friends who do not still down to taking sides. This is the best possible scenario where friends are concerned since it is difficult for any human being to lose friends in an already trying situation. There are many who remain friends with their old associates, even if they were the ones who introduced the spouse in the first meeting.

At times the trouble making kind can carry tales to make you argue with your spouse even after divorce. If you see somebody exaggerating comments and tails in such a manner it is best to let your ex spouse know this before things get worse. It is only one such people lose both in your friendship as well as your partner's that they may realize their folly.