When you ask married couples what was their happiest day, many will answer their wedding day. Unfortunately in many cases the good times take a turn for the worse. If you are in this situation than you may be asking yourself “how do I get my wife back after separation?”

The good news is there is still time. The key is to have a plan and to keep your cool. We will touch on both of those in this article and understand the importance of each.

First, let’s take a look at keeping your cool. Separations occur for many reasons and tempers can rise causing you to say damaging things. Now is the time to keep your cool and give your wife space. This is not easy but you must STOP calling her, dropping by unexpected or emailing her.

You need to use this time to cool off and start thinking how you got to this point. Taking a break also gives her time to clear her head and become rational again. It also allows her time to start missing you. This is a good thing…

Now that you have gotten your head together, it is time develop a plan of action so you can have a clear understanding to your burning question “how do I get my wife back after separation?” To start, take some time to remember the highlights and low times of your marriage. Make a list of the positives and negatives.

Look at your list of positives to understand what made you fall in love in the first place. Now take a look at the negatives and see if there are things you have control to change now such as your attitude, appearance or showing you appreciate everything your wife does for you.

The number one reason given by women for leave a relationship “He doesn’t appreciate a thing I do”.

Let her know you love her and how much so means to you. So in your plan you need to fully understand what caused your marriage to fall apart and take small steps to build your relationship through the following:

• Give her space and take it slow
• Clear your head and get a solid understanding what went wrong and what changes can you do today to begin the healing process
• Begin communication in a calm mature manner
• Let her know how much care for her and appreciate everything she does

This should give you a good starting point. There are many advanced techniques that may help speed up the process getting your wife back faster after a separation. Depending on your circumstance you may want to explore those as well.