Early on in my career, I worked with a client, I will call her Mrs. A, who was responsible for teaching me a very valuable lesson working with the senior population. This single experience gave me a clear understanding of the importance of helping older clients not only with the physical aspects of a later life move, but also with the psychological preparation for their transition and what makes the downsizing process the hardest part of any move.

Mrs. A was quite feisty and a true believer of the school of "waste not, want not". In addition to several mayonnaise jars full of buttons and every size screw known to man, she had a kitchen drawer full of at least 72,000 red rubber bands. An amazing amount of rubber bands of any type, but specifically red was astounding. Since Mrs. A was moving to a senior living community and facing considerable downsizing, I assumed that she could not possibly be intending to take these with her and they would go the way of the buttons and screws which she decided not to take. WRONG! "Of course I am taking them. They are perfectly good and I might need them some day." Although she could not recall the last time she used one, she took comfort in knowing they were there should the need arise.

Considering the kitchen in her new apartment had only three drawers, and we needed every inch of space, this was not something we could even consider taking along to the new place. I knew talking Mrs. A out of her red rubber band collection was going to be a bit of a challenge. After some thought as to what approach to use, I proceeded to ask her, out of curiosity, where they all had come from. It appeared that most had come from bunches of vegetables, such as broccoli and celery, she had purchased at the grocery store over the past 50 or 60 years. This set her off down memory lane telling me about all the different holiday dinners and events she had prepared for over the years. The traditions she meticulously upheld year after year for her children and then grandchildren and great grandchildren. The memories came flooding back to her as she fingered the bands with a twinkle in her eyes. As she spoke, I realized that they were not just rubber bands, but a link to some of the most memorable and happy events of the past 50 years.

When she finally took her eyes off the mountain of red rubber bands, she turned to me with a smile on her face and announced, "I don't suppose I will ever use all those rubber bands, perhaps I will just take a handful in case I need them and donate the rest." I returned an enlightened smile and said 'great idea, I will get a plastic container to put them in, so you can store them in the kitchen drawer in your new apartment'.

Many older adults making a transition have not moved in 30, 40 or 50 years and need to downsize considerably. From this brief encounter, I learned first hand the importance of giving the older person the opportunity to "let go" of their belongings. Often this process includes sharing memories, especially if it is the house where they raised their family and spent a major part of their life. I learned that closure and saying goodbye to the home the senior is leaving is the key to a successful later life move. Proper preparation, along with allowing enough time to get through the experience by sharing memories, can help immensely with the later life transition.