Breaking it off with a former lover is not always easy to do. There still may be feelings on both parts and it is hard to go on from a relationship that you have grown comfortable with. Sometimes one of the people involved in a relationship is not ready to let go emotionally and physically as well. This can make it hard for the couple to part ways permanently as lovers.

If you are still attracted to your ex lover and it is hard to stay away from them in a physical way, you may be setting yourself up for even more heartache. Some couples break up and stay good friends. There is nothing wrong with this. You can have a healthy relationship with your ex lover without going to bed together.

In fact, when you are having sex with your ex lover, this may be one of the worst things that you can do for your own self-esteem. You may in fact be setting yourself up for most disappointment and hurt when the reality sets in that the other person may be using you.

Top reasons why I should feel that I couldn't stop having sex with my ex-lover

If you are finding it difficult to stop having sex with your ex lover, you may need some support and help. You may be feeling that you are still in love with the other person. Maybe the ex lover is lonely and wants to use your for when there is no one else to comfort or satisfy their needs. This is a form of abuse and you are only being conned into thinking that the other person still wants to be with you because they love or need you.

Maybe you have low self-esteem and are finding it difficult to get into another relationship. You may be feeling unwanted and confused and the ex lover is the one thing that is constant in your life and you feel a connection with them. Maybe you are not ready to move on with another relationship and you need to have this person give you affection so that you can raise your own self esteem up higher. This is something that is an emotional issue and may need to be discussed with a professional.

Sometimes people are not ready to separate form a former lover. They may not find it possible to move on to another relationship. When this is the case, it is going to make it hard for the person to distance himself or herself from the former lover.

When the former lover is calling and wanting to have sex with you, it is making it easy to stay attached to them and to feel the connection that you once did. This is a comfortable and familiar feeling that you are having. It may be hard to find a way to get out of this rut.

How will this affect my relationship and life?

If you are still having sex with your ex lover, you may find it hard to move on. You may be declining other opportunities because you are waiting for the ex to call.

You may be holding on to the past and making it very hard to move on to your future. For some people they are wasting their life waiting for someone else. This someone else may never be ready to commit fully to the relationship and therefore it is nothing but wasted time that you are creating.

You may find that you are lonely and depressed most of the time. If you are still having sex with a former lover, you may be separating yourself from other friends and family that are trying to persuade you from making this type of mistake. You have to figure out what you are doing and how it is affecting your life emotionally and physically.

What can I do to stop?

There are ways to stop this type of behavior. You have to be ready to make the break and separate yourself from this type of destructive behavior. The first thing that you need to do is evaluate your life. Are you really happy? Are you tired of waiting by the phone for him or her to call? If you are then you are ready to make this change in your life and ready to move on.

You will have to tell the former lover how you are feeling and what it is doing to your life. It they truly care for you, they will not want to continue this type of situation. They will want to have only the best for you. They may decide to stay friends with you and to distance themselves from you. If they are not worried about how you feel and what this is doing to you, then you will know that they truly do not care for you at all and it is only a physical feeling. This is when you need to sever the ties and depart from this person permanently.

Do not accept phone calls, mail, or see this ex lover in any way. Make it clear to them that your relationship is over and that you have to move on. You need to start new relationships and go out more. Find a friend that you can go out with. Take in movies, go out to eat and play miniature golf. You need to experience the rest of the world and not be afraid to find another relationship that you can progress with when the time is right.