When you are deciding on a divorce, it may not be something enjoyable. You would be shouting out help me save my marriage while your friends would try several ways to find out how to stop a divorce because it could have been due to a misunderstanding that affected it, or there could have been a lack of communication between the two of you. Nevertheless, things may not continually turn out right.

There are quite a few ways you can used to help save your marriage, but randomly trying the way given may cause more harm to your relationship if it is not taken into careful consideration.

Give Empty Promises

Often, one person would say, "Do not worry, I will change.Your relationship will become worse if you just let time pass you by without doing anything meaningful. Although you can plead and promise a change as a bargaining tool, your loved one would be disappointed if you broke your promise. Thus, the widening gap between your relationship will become bigger.

Deed of Distress

When bargaining fails, you may feel intense, knowing that you may soon lose the person you love. Your mind starts thinking of any and all ways of saving your relationship , which may include constant pleas ("Please stay, I need you!") or shocking acts of submission (dressing up beautifully although you have never put on make up before). The worst anyone could do was to abuse the power of the words "I love you." Keep on repeating these words, even in situations where such beautiful words of passion were unsuitable, it will just weakens the power they might have had in helping you win back your loved one.

Comdemn

Forget the bad habits that you has. Disregard the undesirable obsession of your partner. Dismiss the talks of unpleasant neighbours who disturb the two of you. Don't bother on the dog that loves to create a mess in the house. By continuously blaming someone or something for your failing relationship, you are actually highlighting the problems you two have, and the more things you are able to blame, the more negative issues you two could have. Would it be best to separate with so many things that did not end up well in your lives?

Control over you is important, and when calm, you are able to think better. No matter how bad the situation is, you need to stop, take a step back and look at your situation again. You need to look at the exact problem in your relationship and understand why your partner would suggest a divorce. Maybe there had been changes in you that made him or her unhappy, or maybe there was a broken promise from you.

If there was an important time to recollect the past and remember what was it that brought the two of you together, now would be a good time. Start bringing back old memories of how both of you got together, what have attracted you to each other and what are the happy moments you have together as a couple. You were there for your partner all the way while he/she accepted you for who you were. Once you found the reason why the two of you fell in love, you would feel wonderful with the spark of romance again.

Recalling how and why you two came together could be the key to stopping a divorce, and by bringing back the love that was created back then, both you and your partner may well look at the positive side of your marriage instead of the negative things you two have had to face. In order to make your relationship better, you have to bring in the happiness, confidence, trust, strength and the burning passion towards improving the happy moment in your relationship.