I am sure you don't want to kill your marriage. You had great dreams and ideas of how your marriage would be on your wedding day. "Happily ever after" was probably something you thought would just happen. Unfortunately though, that is not the way things always work out.

In this article, you will find 3 reasons why your marriage could be dying today. If you work to fix them, you will find that there really can be a "happily ever after".

1. Know your priorities. If you want to have a happy marriage, you need to spend the time to make it work. If you are always at the office working late, out with the boys, or running off to take the children to this activity or that one, you will not have the time to nurture your marriage. You need to place your marriage and spending the time to help it grow, on the top of the list if you truly value your relationship.

2. Unrealistic dreams or expectations. Hollywood plays a big part in warping the expectations of young lovers. In the movies, the men and women are perfect and this can cause some people to idealize this type of relationship without realizing the work that is involved in maintaining a happy real life marriage. If you find yourself expecting too much or not being realistic, than you need to grow up and change your way of thinking. There is no such thing as an ideal husband or wife, and the sooner one accepts that, the more time can be spent into working on the relationship as it truly is.

3. Feelings of low self worth. These negative feelings can be detrimental to the health of a marriage. A person who suffers from feelings of low self worth may think that they can not do the work involved in making a marriage work, or that they do not deserve a happy marriage. You also will find that you have to watch what you say and do around them so as to not destroy anymore of their self esteem. As it can be very hard to get over these types of feelings, professional help may be needed.

One of the main reasons why people get married is to build a happy life with someone special and not to eventually kill your marriage. But like many other things that are worth having and keeping, marriages take a daily effort to ensure that everything is working the way it should be.

If you spend the time needed to cultivate your marriage, stay realistic, and work to make sure both you and your spouse's self esteem is protected, you will find that there is a "happily ever after" out there just for you.