The suspicion that someone is cheating on you is one of the worst feelings in the world. It makes you second-guess everything. It makes you wonder if you’re paranoid. One minute you’re sure she’s cheating and the next, you try to talk yourself out of it.

Guess what? You already have a handle on the biggest sign of a cheating girlfriend. Your gut feeling matters more than anything else! If you feel there is something wrong, there probably is.

If you have suspicions about your girlfriend’s faithfulness, it’s time to take a look at the little things that don’t add up. Is your girlfriend doing any of the following?

She comes home later and later from work. When you ask her where she’s been, she tells you she had to work late, or she went out with her friends after she left the office. When you press her for details, she gets annoyed or irritated at you.

Do her girlfriends ignore you, or give you sympathetic looks? Do they make comments that make you think there is something being hidden? Listen to what they say – they probably want to tell you, but don’t know how to do it without alienating their friend.

When you talk to her about a particular outing or project, she pauses quite a bit during the conversation. She might also ask you “What?” when you know she heard you. She’s giving herself the extra time to think of a good answer that will cover her tracks and keep her lie intact.

Does she pull away from affection with you? If you try to kiss her and get only a peck on the cheek, or you hold her hand but she doesn’t seem to want you to do it, she might be feeling guilty about someone else. If she hesitates to make love to you when she was always an eager lover, there might be something going on behind your back.

When you talk about a future with her, does she change the subject? A woman who was practically ready to marry you a few months ago might now be uncertain. There might be someone else taking away her affections. It’s hard to talk about a future with someone when you’re sleeping with someone else!

Since it’s the future you should be thinking about, start now to make sure your girlfriend isn’t cheating on you.  Search for the signs, then get the proof!