Although experiencing the loss of love from your wife can be extremely depressing, cheer up: this does not need to mean that the relationship is over. Even if her feelings have changed suddenly and thereby left you feeling confused and lonely, you may be feeling eager to heal the wounds and jump right back into your relationship. You may want to immediately bring things back to the way they were.

If you are saying to yourself, "My wife wants to leave me," there are some things you need to know. If you learn the proper way to respond in the face of her recent change of heart - and if you can master the art of how not to strain the relationship even further - then getting her to change her mind about your love is very much a possibility.

When not long ago I was in the very situation you find yourself in now, I learned a secret from a relationship guru that helped me more than anything else. The secret?

Keep Your Confidence

That's right, if you are saying to yourself, "My wife wants to leave me," then the most important thing you need to do may feel counterintuitive at first, but trust me on this one: you need to remain (and maintain the appearances of being) confident. It can feel difficult to keep up a cheerful attitude throughout your day immediately after your wife has told you (or you find evidence) that she wants to leave you. But, relationship experts agree that an optimistic and confident attitude can go a long way toward winning back her heart.

Rather than going around feeling gloomy, try to find ways that you can keep yourself occupied and in a good place mentally. Keep any depression you are feeling out of your demeanor. Give your wife the impression that you are strong and that you are more than capable of handling such an emotional situation. And, make sure she knows through your attitude and actions that you are capable of surviving on your own, if things should come to that point.

One way to achieve this projection of confidence is to remain socially active. If getting your wife's love back is your primary focus, surround yourself with well-wishers, positive attitudes and good friends. Show your wife that people appreciate you and that they love having you around. As more people continue to feel good about having you in their lives, your wife will begin to see you in a completely new light. She will realize that yes, you are a desirable person that she simply cannot afford to let go. This is one of the best ways to get your wife to see you in a new, more flattering light.

Maintain Your Appearance

An important aspect of keeping your confidence in the face of a possible marriage breakup is to not let your appearance deteriorate. You need to pay attention to every detail of your looks, including your clothes, your hair, your stride, your shoes and even your voice. It can be hard to act happy or to take care of yourself when facing a possible breakup, but doing so is one of the most sure-fire ways to let your wife know that you are doing just fine. If you two are to get back together at all, you are going to do so like mature and responsible adults. In the meantime, strut your stuff and keep your self-confidence and self-image in better shape than ever.

Facing the possibility of your breakup after having the realization that "My wife wants to leave me" can be one of the most heart-wrenching things you face in your adult life. That is precisely why it is so important that you maintain your confidence while you and your wife work out your issues. Keeping your confidence - including maintaining your appearance - is one of the most fail-safe ways to regain your wife's confidence in your relationship.