Once you decided to get married with your beloved, it is time to be sure there is consensus between you and your partner. Some issues might be left over and never be discussed thoroughly before. The problem is those issues might be quite important and might ruined your marriage in the long run.
The followings are the some issues you need to think about:
1 Faithfulness in the relationship
No one would stand a third person in a marriage. However, what is the boundary of being unfaithful? Everyone might have a different ruler. Discuss it with your partner and see how the differences between your and your partner's thoughts are.
2 Respect & tolerance
We should respect and trust our partners. Any unreasonable doubt on your partner would only lead to breaking up and harm the relationship between both of you. Never check the mobile phone record or email of your partner. This is the basic respect and trust you should have for one another.
3 Household income expectations
There are lots of expenses when a couple lives together. These expenses include the rent, transportation, food, entertainment etc. What kind of living standard after getting married should be discussed in detail in order to avoid mismatch of expectations.
4 Religious beliefs
Respect the religious beliefs of your partner. There is no reason to ask your partner to give up his / her religious belief just because of you. Understanding and respecting the difference in religious beliefs is vital in order to keep a good and long term relationship.
5 Common hobbies
What is the hobby of your partner? If you love outdoor activities a lot but your partner only wishes to read a book in the living room, it will only result in argument and disappointment. It is not saying that you two must have the same hobbies. Sharing is the key, even though you might have different hobbies, you can still share the happiness and joy of your hobbies to your partner. Let him / her know more of you would tight you two closer together.
6 Having children or not
It is important to discuss if you would like to have a child or not before you get married because sometimes it is a great dispute between a married couple. One might be keen to have two to three children but the partner might not want to have one child. Consensus and agreements should be reached before marriage as it is not a right and wrong issues. If you / your partner would like to bring along a child into the marriage, you have to make sure that the children and your partner would accepted each other in order to have a happy family relationship.
7 Happy Sexual relationship
Sex is an important key in enforcing the marriage. However, sometimes a couple is too shy to discuss about it such as how frequent sexual activities should be taken place, this is especially true in places like Hong Kong? What is the best position to give you and your partner the most sexual pleasure? There is no point to avoid discussions on this issue.