There are a number of different theories about what the G-spot or area actually is. One view is that it is an area of prostatic tissue similar to the male prostate. The absence of the Y chromosome in the developing female fetus deposits the cells in a similar location and voila - the G-spot. Complete with a similar type of sensitivity to the male prostate

Fellatio and Female Orgasms – Let's be honest, men enjoy fellatio and want to receive it. The bad part is that since your partner usually won't be getting much in return she may be less likely to go along with your desire. If you can pleasure her while she is giving you oral sex, then you have the best of both worlds. Next time you ask for fellatio, lie flat on the bed and ask your partner to straddle your body with her butt facing you. As she's going down on you, you'll be in perfect position to reach up and use your fingers to massage her clitoris. While that hand is busy, use your other hand to stroke her butt and her back. As your pleasure becomes more intense, you should increase the intensity of what you are giving to her as well.

• Fellatio and Sex Toys – Of course, you don't have to use your fingers to get your partner off while she's pleasuring you. Another method is to use some sex toys. While she's in the same position described above, use a dildo or vibrator to simulate thrusting into her vagina. If she's not completely aroused, try rubbing the vibrator over her butt, labia, and inner thighs while she's going down on you. By the time she's finished with you, she'll either have orgasmed or be more than ready to have one of her own.

Orgasm Through Anal Intercourse

When most people think of female orgasms, they rarely think of anal sex. However, anal sex and stimulation can be surprisingly pleasurable to many women. Even though your partner may enjoy these activities, you will probably have to take it slow. The majority of women do not generally jump at the opportunity for anal stimulation, and some have been turned off from it completely because of past experiences. Remember that most types of anal sex or stimulation will require the use of lubrication because the area does not create its own lubricant. Below are some ideas of how anal stimulation can increase the changes of your partner reaching an orgasm.

• Oral Sex & Anal Stimulation – If you want your partner to be open to trying any type of anal stimulation, you'll need to bring it up while she's in a very relaxed, feel good state. During oral sex is an excellent time for this reason. As you're stimulating her clitoris with your tongue, use your fingertip to gently rub the outer rim of her anus. Because this area contains a large number of nerve endings, this added and probably unexpected stimulation will send shivers up her spine. It's also a good introduction to the pleasures of anal stimulation.

• Anal Stimulation & Vaginal Intercourse – Another way to introduce this type of stimulation is during vaginal intercourse. When you and your partner are trying out some of the positions described earlier in this article, you may also want to throw in a little extra stimulation. Very gently slide the tip of one of your fingers inside her anus. You can slide it in and out the way you are thrusting in and out of her with your penis. Remember just to use the tip of your finger. If you get too gung-ho and slide too much of your finger in, then she may end up feeling pain and not pleasure.

• Anal Stimulation & Sex Toys – If you aren't comfortable using your fingers to explore that part of your partner's body, you can still find ways to give her that extra stimulation. As we've mentioned earlier in the book, a number of vibrators are specially designed to be used for anal stimulation. While you are having vaginal sex in almost any position, you can be using the vibrator just as you might have used your finger. The extra bonus for her is that the vibration from the toy is going to be coursing through her entire pelvic region and will “ring” her clitoris, as well.

• Anal Intercourse – Never attempt anal intercourse without first discussing it with your partner. If you do, she is likely to be angry and will feel as if she can't trust you in the future. Without trust, she's going to have a harder time of achieving an orgasm so if you really care about giving her pleasure then you wouldn't be doing either of you any favors. If she is willing to try it, then read through some of the rear entry positions discussed earlier in this chapter and choose one which you both think would be the most enjoyable. If it's her first time experiencing anal intercourse, then she's probably going to be nervous so you'll want to relax her first, perhaps with a deep body massage on top of the other foreplay you've done to get her in the mood. Make sure you use plenty of lubrication to ease the initial discomfort. Some women do report being able to have orgasms from anal intercourse, possibly because the unseen portion of the clitoris would extend far enough back to be stimulated by the thrusting of a penis in this area. However, you can help her along and keep her feeling stress free by reaching below her and massaging her clitoris or using a vibrator on her at the same time.