With the divorce rates climbing up, so many people are hesitating marriage nowadays. Most people would not dare to marry because they expect that they will be cheated on anyway. This is such a fallacy, however.

Experiencing great love is still possible in this lifetime. You just have to work on your relationship, and make sure that you both are kept in a nourishing emotional environment. But if you must know how to protect yourself, you can best arm yourself by knowing the signs of cheating men.

Before you enter a relationship, you should already screen your “prospect” for such signs of cheating men. Is he a cheater? What then should you look out for?

But if it’s too late (you’re already married) and you have apprehensions, how do you tell if he is cheating on you?

This article discusses the signs of cheating men. They are divided into two parts: the “pre-screening” and knowing when your spouse is cheating on you.

Detecting the Signs of Cheating Men Through Pre-Screening

How did you get to know your man? If you met him at a party or at a bar, how did he act? If he was going around, talking to all sorts of women before settling on you, then you better beware.

He is the type who would like to keep his options open, and chances are, you were just the best option in the room. If he finds a seemingly better one, the possibilities are highly likely for him to leave you for another seemingly better “option.”

If you met him at work, does he like flirting with other women? A very “friendly” man should be reason enough for you to steer clear. While making friends surely is harmless, the loss of boundaries isn’t.

Flirting with other girls should not be something you would permit. If he can be loose today, how easy would it be for him to leave you in the future, when your body isn’t as shapely as it used to be! Don’t even give this guy a shot at being your man!

How to Know When to Get Out (Or Toss Him Into Counseling With You)

He seems to be unusually busy nowadays, with one “business trip” too many. He refuses to account his time or his money with you. If he does, you smell a rat somewhere: there are discrepancies, and you just know he’s lying.

He keeps a separate bank account now, and bank statements say that he’s been dipping into these frequently. His credit card statements have purchases for items that ideally should have been for you, but you never got these.

If he’s been rather cold and dry for years, then he suddenly gets on a happier streak and is much sweeter than usual, then that’s one of the reliable signs of cheating men.

A woman’s intuition is rather reliable. If you smell a rat somewhere, chances are, there really is, and he’s beside you at night. The best way to go would be to verify his bank and credit card statements, and have a private investigator gather information for you (if you can afford it).

When you’ve verified you’re being cheated on, calm yourself down by taking a week away from him. Then confront him and press him to make a decision: would he want to work on your marriage through counseling, or is this the end of the line for you?

Ideally, a marriage should be saved. But if your husband would rather go on with his lifestyle, there is no use for you to stay. Don’t choose to save your marriage if your husband is resolute in leaving you. You should not exchange your sanity for his happiness. But remember that if there is still a sliver of a chance that both of you would want to work on the marriage, work on it.

Knowing the signs of cheating men should not be an exercise in paranoia. There should be trust in a relationship. But you should also bear in mind that if you pre-screened your man in the first place, you won’t need to be on the hunt for the signs later on.

Choose a man well, and make sure that both of you pull your weight in your marriage, and you would surely avoid the personal hell that divorce would give you.