Warning Signs Of Future Spouse Abuse

Countless wives and even some husbands are being abused by their own spouse.  We all know that abuse comes in many forms.  But often times it can be prevented by understanding some of the behavior(s) that precede the abuse.

In this article I will focus on the common problem of anger and rage.  And I will share some of the warning signs to be concerned about.

If you are married hopefully things are going great, and most times they do for the first couple of years.  Then suddenly for example, one day your husband will just lose all his marbles because he doesn’t get his own way.  He may get in your face and yell and scream.  He may break things in the house like pictures, and such.   Often times he will break wedding pictures or other pictures of himself and you together.  (If he is out in his workshop and loses his temper out there, which has nothing to do with you, then comes in and is extremely tender with you then that maybe different).

His wife may cry, and be in shock or react in other ways.  But she may cover everything up for him which is what I may do for my wife the first time.

Where the danger lies is when this starts to become a pattern.  And this is why.  Eventually this anger can lead to physical abuse, rape and possibly even murder and suicide.  Especially if the anger is over sex, or is about any kind of jealousy.  Drugs, alcohol, and gambling compound all this but these are different topics that I get into deeper in our website.  But if there is a pattern developing, then the wife or the husband in some cases must immediately give an ultimatum - either apologize, humble yourself and seek help, or get out.

The other thing do to is to get this out in the open right away to either friends, family and a pastor.  Don’t do it to cast judgement, do it for your protection and so people are aware of what is going on so the abusive spouse can be kept accountable.

Now both husbands and wives hope with all their might that things will change and thus will not take any actions against the potential abusive partner.  But nothing will change until you draw the line, and make sure the person with the problem is seeking help.

Again, every human gets angry from time to time, but eventually the anger will be taken out on you or even worse, your children.  So please, please do something before it’s too late.  I know you have poured your life into this person, but if they are not willing to seek help you must protect yourself and your children.  Don’t be deceived into thinking things will not get any worse.  Is it worth taking that chance?  It’s not if it were my children.

I don’t have all the answers about where to go and how to afford to go if he or she won’t change.  But I know God loves watching over victims, so cry out to him and take a step of faith.  And he will provide refuge because he is faithful.  We are working on posting links for resources on the web page in our site.

Thank you for taking the time to read this article and may God bless you!


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