Have you wondered how heavy a glass of water is? Well then it will depend on how long you have to carry it. If you carry it for a minute, it would be a piece of cake and definitely pose no problem whatsoever. If you carry it for an hour, your arm might ache and begin to affect your body too. But if you lift it for 24 hours, there’s no doubt you will probably be in bad shape. Now when you look at it, it’s the same glass of water but the longer you carried it, the heavier it felt. So also it is with bearing a grudge or hateful feeling against someone. This can become a real burden. A burden that becomes so heavy to bear that it practically stops us from moving in life and tears us down. The reality of life you have to accept is that people are different and because of this difference, people will hurt you. Sometimes they do it intentionally, other times they have no idea. So what do you do? How do you overcome this hurtful feeling or this grudge? There are 3 steps to doing this.

Step 1 Confrontation:Confront your feelings and not those who have hurt you. When the hurt is deep it becomes even harder to forgive. At this point go to step 2.

Step 2 Pray:say a prayer for yourself and for those who have hurt you. If you do not know what to pray, just repeat these words. “Lord change my heart and heal me.”

Step 3 Change your thinking:Begin to fill your mind with love, this maybe hard at first, but keep at it. Your mental state will begin to change, as you continue to pray for them and for yourself. Something extraordinary will happen, your heart will begin to soften, you will overcome you raw emotions, dispose of your burden, feel lighter and you will begin to see them through God’s eyes. Above all you will overcome your depressed state even with out the use of drugs.