Have you ever been afraid to talk to a peer or client because you didn't think you looked your best? Worse yet, did you think you weren't ready to tell them anything they wanted to hear? In retrospect, you know that approaching the circumstance with confidence would have made all the difference. If that's the case, it's time for you to start building unshakable self-confidence in what you have to offer the world around you.
Confidence isn't something that can be bought or sold. It is something you have to decide to give to yourself. It isn't reserved only for millionaires or super stars. Plenty of ordinary people exude confidence, and it gives them an advantage that can't be denied.
If you want to build unshakable confidence, you have to make it a priority, and create a plan. Meanwhile, no matter what your flaws, weaknesses or shortcomings, you are able to offer the world a perspective that is unlike anyone else's. It's up to you to decide that your message and purpose have worth. All you have to do is believe in yourself. Now for your plan. There is practical way to build conidence. Here are three things you can do right now:
1. Study and repeat affirmations
2. Monitor your "self-talk" and ensure that it is positive no matter what you are facing today
3. Only spend time with people who give you a greater experience of yourself.
So then, the only way to go from timid or uncertain to confident and outspoken is that you decide to make a change your mentality. Every time you have a "can't do" thought, make a change. Turn your negatives into positives. Anything you think you can't do becomes something you can.
It's like playing a role in theater. Think of a person you believe to have unshakable confidence. From movie stars to successful people in business, choose a single person you admire. Now, look in the mirror and channel their self-confidence. When you look at yourself, imagine what it would feel like to be in their shoes.
Now, think of all the negative things you tell yourself that prevent you from feeling as confident as the movie star or business person you look up to. Imagine wadding all those negative thoughts into a ball and throwing them away until all that is left is pure confidence.
What would you do differently if you had complete, unshakable self-confidence? Play that role. The old adage states, "Fake it until you make it." Confidence is all about pretending you've got what it takes until you convince yourself you are worth it.
Think of the last time someone close to you gave you a great compliment. Perhaps it was your spouse, your boss or your best client. Think of how you felt at that specific moment. Now, imagine what it felt like to see you from their perspective. Imagine yourself in their shoes, and bask in their admiration for the great qualities they see in you.
If you want to improve your performance at work or simply walk with your shoulders held high in the grocery store tomorrow morning, it's time to build unshakable confidence in your own self worth. People around you see the good points about you, so it's time you see the good in yourself. It will give you a competitive edge in work and the ability to love yourself again.
It's time to invest in yourself for a change. Look in the mirror today and see yourself for the amazing person you really are. You can start from a fresh moment today and become great from right where you stand.