Five words that changed someone's life.

By Dennis Fisher.

Words – either written or spoken – have extraordinary power to affect people's lives in a number of different ways.  They can arouse positive emotions that will encourage people to perform actions and achieve goals they never realized they were capable of reaching.  Words can also be responsible for producing emotions so harmful they can have a negative effect on person's sense of self-worth and self-esteem.  The emotional scars caused by thoughtless, tactless and damaging comments can remain with them for the rest of their life.

The full impact of the power of words was brought home to me very dramatically a short while ago.

A number of years ago my wife, who is a professional handwriting analyst and has a popular website on the internetgraphology-world.comreceived a sample of handwriting from a teen-aged young man who wanted to have his handwriting analyzed

As soon as my wife read the letter it was clear the youngster was very distressed and desperately unhappy. It was obvious that he suffered from very low self-esteem and had a number of problems which he felt unable to cope with.

His letter was a cry of despair.  He had a very low opinion of himself and felt he was incapable of achieving anything worthwhile in life.

It appeared that the boy's father, a rugged, outdoor type and a successful businessman who had also been a prominent sportsman in his earlier years, was disappointed that the youngster had shown no talent in any sporting activity; neither had he ever distinguished himself as a student.  The youngster was aware of his father's disappointment as a result of comments that had been made.

In his letter to my wife the young man wanted to know whether it was possible for my wife to see any indication at all at in his handwriting of any talents he possessed of which he was unaware.

The detailed analysis of hand writing is not something that can be done simply by a casual glance at a handwriting sample.  It requires many hours of careful scrutiny in which dozens of different indications of character are carefully pieced together to provide a composite and accurate picture of the writer's personality.  Because of this, the professional charges for this service can be fairly costly.

The young man explained in his letter that he was still a student and couldn't   afford to pay required fee for the analysis he needed so desperately. Neither did he want to borrow the money from his parents as he was didn't want them  to know that he had written this letter.

The young man went on to say that he would be very grateful indeed if my wife would be prepared to do the analysis free of charge, but realized that this was probably too much to ask.

My wife was impressed with the obvious sincerity expressed in the young man's letter and the urgency of his need for some positive feedback.  She decided to do the analysis of his handwriting and not to make any charge at all.

A detailed study of the youngster's handwriting revealed that he was a person of great sensitivity with a very caring nature and a number of fine qualities.  It was also clear to her that that he definitely had significant latent talents and skills.

She sent him a warm, compassionate, encouraging email with a details of the many fine qualities she found in his handwriting.

My wife received an immediate acknowledgement of her email thanking her profusely for her generosity and kindness.

That was ten years ago.  Since then she heard nothing at all from the young man for whom she had felt so much sympathy… until a short while ago.

Suddenly, out of the blue, a few weeks ago she received a letter from the young man she had helped so many years ago by giving him the self-confidence he so desperately needed at the time.

The tone of this letter was quite different from the anguished cry for help she had previously received.   The young man informed my wife that he had qualified as a Veterinarian; found the work with animals satisfying and fulfilling and was very happy indeed with his career and his life.

The young man assured my wife he would be forever grateful for her help and the words of encouragement in the email she had sent him so many years ago.  Her message had meant a great deal to him. He had been feeling desperately low at the time, filled with sense of his own inadequacy.

He went on to say it was the first five words in my wife's e-mail that had triggered off  the positive emotions in his mind that led to a change in his life.

My wife was very pleased indeed to learn that this detailed, favorable handwriting analysis had had such a positive effect on someone's life.

I asked her if she could remember what she written so many years ago and if she could recall what  were the five words to which the young man referred.

It wasn't necessary for my wife to consult her records.  She replied immediately: "Of course, I remember.  It was clear this boy with such a low opinion of himself had no reason to feel inadequate. He was a young man with a great deal of promise and this is exactly what I wrote:You really are someone special!"

Even though I had very little to do with this story with a happy ending, I have also derived a certain measure of satisfaction, for the following reason.

It has always been my belief that everyone should try and develop their talents and creative powers to the very best of their ability.  For this reason, when my wife first showed an interest in learning more about the fascinating field of handwriting analysis more than thirty five years ago, I encouraged her in every way possible to study with leading experts in the fileld all over the world, so that become a recognized authority  herself.

My wife has found the practice of her craft intellectually stimulating and extremely satisfying.  It represents the essence of creative thinking. This is a subject in which I have always been profoundly interested.

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