Your experiences in life makes you mature and you know you have no one to blame for the past but the circumstances and your immaturity.

Your immaturity stopped you from looking at facts and seeing things as they were.

Your immaturity made you blame others for your sufferings.

You created and escalated your suffering without realizing the facts and circumstances and taking a easy way out by holding others responsible for it.

You feel you are on the receiving end due to your immaturity.  However, life has a knack of playing and after few years it recreates the same circumstances but this time puts you on the opposite side (giving end),   you  are left with no choice but to accept the fact that you were so immature then and have grow-up with years. Life makes you see your ‘old you’ in somebody else now in these replaying of circumstances and you know that the other person still has to wait years ahead to grow and realize these fact.

Maturity slowly leads to wisdom when you know that it is only you who has to stand up and take responsibility for your past – action / inaction, sufferings / failures instead of holding others responsible.  It is truly said that you create your own happiness. By blaming others and holding grudges u keep happiness at bay and give way to hatred and self pity.  However, with time and wisdom when you accept the responsibility for your sufferings and embrace all your successes without pride -you are truly happy.

By: Bakhtawar Jal Sethna