If we are totally honest with ourselves, we have to realize that the most difficult thing for us to accept during the course of the day is, namely, that everything that comes toward us, whenever we get upset or angry, whenever we become furious over something, including what offendsus or perhaps even hurts us, always has to do with us in a very personal way. This means that it is not the other person who is to blame for my condition, instead, it has something to do with me very personally, because something triggered a strong reaction in my inner being, and that is the correspondence.

There is a book that explains about this entitled: “Me. Me. Me. The Spider in the Web. The Law of Correspondence and the Law of Projection. In it, we can read the following:

The law of correspondence of one person is not the law of correspondence of another. Every one feels, thinks, speaks and acts according to his specific laws of perception and of correspondence, according to his own state of consciousness. This is what he works with and what he uses to influence others in many ways, in order to project his correspondence, his opinion, into them. The projections of correspondences from one person into another often take place with cunning and trickery or with deliberate pressure, so that the other accept the correspondence – the opinion – of the one.

When a person successfully insinuates his opinion into the mind of another by projecting it into him, he can control the one upon whom he has imposed a part of his correspondence; because, with his successful program­ming, a channel was established for influencing the other person. In terms of burdening potential, the one who influenced the other, that is, programmed him, with his clever insinuation, has then become a part of the other.

In this way, the law of correspondence becomes the law of projection: What at first corresponded to the one, now, through insinuation, also partly corresponds to the other. On the personal level this means: What corres­ponded to me, now, by way of insinuation, corresponds to you. The programming, rather manipulation, was successful. My correspondence became a projection. I have entered my way of thinking, my ideas, into my neighbor. Thus a part of my fate – has become inter­woven with that of my neighbor.

But in our world, we often see one manipulating the other. We often see this in the family where this behavior gets started. The parents try to manipulate their children to be as they would like them. They don’t allow the children’s character to develop, because they believe that they, the parents, know better.

As the child develops, perhaps after three years, it may start to resist: “No, I don’t want to!”, the child says. And the parents, in their programs then say, “But you have to do this, because it’s healthy and important for you.” And this is the first interference in the free will of a human being. This is why, particularly in questions of raising children, it is important to be alert and to not say, “You have to do this,” but to perhaps also explain, not in a controlling way, but in a way that gives guidance.

The question, “What do you think?” allows complete freedom, and with children, its effect is often that they weigh it in their minds, and seldom say, “No.” Instead, a solution is worked out together, as it should be.

Parents often impose correspondences on their children, that is, their sinfulness. Who doesn’t know the statement, “My son should have it better than I and should choose this or that profession.” This may not even be where his capabilities and talents lie. Often we are not aware of the fact that particularly in our interaction with the younger generation, especially with our children, we don’t only make a momentary mistake by projecting our correspondences onto our child. Instead, it goes way beyond that, beyond the life into the beyond, perhaps even having an effect over other incarnations. Because if the child takes on our behavior patterns, our thought patterns, our way of thinking, then it can be that this child deviates from its lifeline.

So, by imposing something onto another, projecting it into him, we cause a binding to develop that can often have effects lasting way beyond this life on earth.

This topic is dealt with more deeply in the book, “Me, Me, Me. The Spider in the Web. The Law of Correspondence and the Law of Projection,” written by Gabriele of Würzburg, the prophetess and messenger of God for these times.

Help is offered, so that we may learn how to be more attentive and recognize how we continually manipulate others or subject ourselves to others, that is, to outside influences.