How to write a Wedding Best Man's Speech

It is the best man's job to introduce all speakers at a wedding, usually in this order:
- Father of the Bride
- Groom
- Best man
Others such as the mother of the bride may wish to speak too. Traditionally, the best man is the one who speaks last, hopefully saving the best for last.

Remember that your speech is your gift to your friends, you way of thanking them for having chosen you for the honour of being their best man. It is your contribution to the most special day of their lives and should mainly be about introducing the couple to the guests. You can tease the groom (you're actually expected to do so) but be sincere and overall positive.

It is important to make all the guests feel included. Think of the guests who will be listening to your speech – if a story takes too long to explain, it's better to think of something else.

It is important to make all the guests feel included. Think of the guests who will be listening to your speech – if a story takes too long to explain, it's better to think of something else. The speech should not take more than 5mins. Write it, then practise it until you get the timing right. You can try to remember it by heart but don't trust your memory. From personal experience here at , we can tell you that you'll be excited on that day and might even have quenched your thirst with a glass of wine or two so it's best to keep a printed copy in your jacket!


INTRODUCTION
Speak to the musician or DJ and ask them to mention that you're going to make a speech. Here is a general introduction that you can simply copy. Change the words in brackets for the actual names.

Excuse me everyone, could I have your attention for a moment. I'd like to take a few moments to say a few words about our bride and groom. I'm [BEST MAN'S NAME], [GROOM'S NAME]'s best man and long-time friend.


BODY
We divided the body in various sections to help you out.

Congratulations
Congratulate the key people of the event:
- parents for organising the wedding and how well it's turning out (if they did)
- bridesmaids/ ushers for looking great and helping out
- the bride and groom for gaining such amazing parents-in-law
- bride for being on time (if she was) because groom looked worried…
- groom for choosing you
- God for weather (if religious)

About The Groom
Mention how well you think of him and what a good friend he is. People expect funny stories about the groom so you can describe the groom. Speak positively about him (NEVER negatively or offensively) but you can include some funny stories that you think will make him blush and smile. You can mention the groom's past loves as long as they absolutely in the far past and confirm with the groom that the bride and the parents-in-law aren't too touchy about the subject.

Points to think about and maybe include:
- When, where, how did you meet groom
- How long have you known the groom
- The groom's hobbies
- Sports the groom plays
- The groom's car
- The groom at school and university
- The groom's job/s
- The groom's chat up lines/ moves with girls in the past
- The groom's idea of a great weekend
- The groom when drunk
- Any funny habits/ things the groom's scared of
- Any embarrassing/ funny stories about the groom
- Anything the groom did to get you into minor trouble or embarrass you.
- Anything really good that the groom did to help you

About The Bride
Describe the bride, picture her positively (NEVER negatively) but you can include some funny stories that you think will make her blush and smile. By comparison, they should be less ‘rough' than the groom's since we're talking about the bride. Also you should spend less time on the bride because they always get a lot of attention at weddings so this is the chance to balance things out a little. Here are some points you can think about and include:

Points to think about and maybe include:
- When, where, how did you meet the bride
- How long have you known the bride
- The bride's hobbies
- Sports the bride plays
- The bride at school and university
- The bride's job/s
- The bride's chat up lines/ moves with girls in the past
- The bride's idea of a great weekend
- Any funny habits/ things the bride's scared of
- Any slightly embarrassing/ funny stories about the bride
- Anything really good that the bride did to help you

The Groom & Bride
Something about the groom and bride together. You can be personal but not too personal – remember that guests will include parents, relatives, etc. For example tell about how their first meeting generated enough electricity to power Malta through the next blackout. Mention how compatible they are and how great they both look today. Mention how their relationship has enriched each other's lives.

Points to think about and maybe include:
- When, where, how did they meet
- How long have they known each other
- What the groom sees in the bride i.e. why he chose her/ she chose him
- Has the groom ever done anything romantic with his bride
- The Proposal

The Wedding itself
Mention any behind-the-scenes stories about wedding preparations but be careful not to include sensitive areas if the family had any arguments over part of the wedding arrangements.

Points to think about and maybe include:
- The stag night
- The Hen night
- Preparations for the Wedding


CONCLUSION
Always end your speech with a toast. If it's a sit-down dinner, guests can raise their glasses. If it's a reception, ask those who have glasses to raise them. The rest can simply clap! Here is a general conclusion that you can copy. Just change the words in brackets for the actual names.

Ladies and Gentlemen may I invite you to all join me in a toast.
Those who don't have glasses in their hands can clap!

Let's wish ever-lasting health and happiness for the future of this amazing couple.
To [BRIDE'S NAME] and [GROOM'S NAME]!