It’s easy enough to criticize your boyfriend for not giving you enough attention or spending time with you if he isn’t doing anything else. However, you can’t really make demands when he’s busy with work. It seems unfair for you to complain when he’s just trying to be the best at his job.

Then again, you have every right to draw the line when you realize that your boyfriend talks about work even when he’s just hanging out with you on weekends. Check out the five signs that indicate that your boyfriend’s obsessed with his job:

1. He uses workplace lingo when he talks to you.
If your boyfriend talks to you as if you were his workmate, it shows that he can no longer distinguish between his work time and downtime. For instance, if your boyfriend works for a newspaper and, in the middle of reading the menu, he suddenly says, “This has got to be edited.” This proves that he’s on work mode even when he’s supposed to be relaxing.

2. He can’t remember when he last took a vacation.
A person who doesn’t ever take a break from his job is in serious risk of being burned out. This means that your boyfriend has already made his job the focus of his life. This is why he can no longer make time for himself. If you ask him to take a vacation with you, he’ll probably come up with all sorts of excuses to avoid going. It’s not that he doesn’t love you. It’s because he would feel guilty about not working.

3. He lets his secretary schedule your dates.
If your boyfriend’s schedule is so packed that he needs his secretary’s help to figure out when he can have a date with you, then you have a problem. How long can you stand not being his priority? Perhaps, you should ask your boyfriend if he really has time to nurture your relationship. Otherwise, there is no point in having a relationship.

4. He gets depressed when he can’t go to work.
Rather than enjoying time off from work, your boyfriend gets visibly sad when he can’t go to work. If he gets sick, he would hardly notice that you’re at his bedside because he’s more worried about the memos he has to write or the emails he has to reply to. He’s so fond of work that he even stops by his office on weekends and holidays.

5. He proposes to you via his office email.
If your boyfriend asks you to marry him via email because he has no time to make reservations for a special dinner, you have to think twice about saying, “I do.” You must ask yourself if you can stand being married to a man who may love his job more than he loves you.

The best way for you to convince your boyfriend to stop working too much is to tell him that you want him to be less stressed. You have to emphasize that you’re only making the request because you’re concerned about his health.

You can also tell him that you want him to stop looking at the clock when you’re together. If he doesn’t respond to any of your requests, you can either take him as he is or terminate the relationship. Thing won’t work out if all he thinks about is work.