Being in control of your anger is a crucial element in functioning and surviving in normal society. We're all seen what can happen when anger gets out of control. Throwing a chair across a basketball court, attacking a fellow parent at a child's ballgame, or standing up and berating the President of the United States during a speech are just a few of the more memorable incidents of failing at anger management. So how do you keep your anger from turning you into just another memorable incident?

While at times, we feel like relieving pent up frustrations and anger, either in the form of a verbal tirade or physical action, doing so typically does more harm than good. Learning how to recognize feelings of anger and what is causing them, is critical to properly managing your anger. As most of us realize, this is certainly easier said than done. There are however, ways to learn how to deal with anger management.

Environmental Effects
It is crucial when considering how to control your anger that you consider the environments in which you find yourself most angry. If you experience feelings of anger or frustration during certain times or in particular places, it might be best to evaluate what you can do to steer clear of those areas or situations. While it might be difficult to avoid a stressful job, there may be ways to restructure your schedule, office environment or meeting times to better manage situations that build anger. The same goes for time spent at home, in the car, while shopping, and similar, often frustration environments or activities. Ask yourself what makes you most angry about these environmental situations and then try to do something to remedy it.

Increased Communication
One of the best ways to deal with anger is to express your feelings. In doing so however, it is important to express emotions in a constructive, and if possible, positive way. Often, the people that are causing us anger and frustration don't even know they are doing so and would be more than willing to change or manage their own behavior if they were aware it is angering us. Talking through issues, asking questions regarding others' actions, and expressing personal thoughts, feelings, and ideas can be a great way to air your grievances and release anger in a constructive way.