What to do? When to do?

Deciding whether it is right for you to have sex is one of the most important decisions you will ever have to make. Use your own judgment and decide if it is the right time – and the right person. There are also other important physical factors to be considered like the possibility of becoming pregnant or getting a sexually transmitted disease (STD). Then, there are the emotional factors, too. Though a person's body may feel ready for sex, sex also has very serious emotional consequences. Moral factors are important as well and family attitudes, personal values, or religious beliefs provide you with an inner voice which would guide you in resisting pressures to get sexually involved before the time is right.

Peer Pressure

Sometimes in your urge to feel one among your group of friends, you would be forced by your friends to lose your virginity. Unfortunately, some teens feel that they have to lose their virginity to keep up with their friends or to be accepted. Your friends who have already had sex with their boyfriends or girlfriends might tell you it isn’t a big deal. But sex isn't something that's only physical; it's emotional, too. Your emotions might be different from your friends’ and hence it is not right to depend on your friends' opinions to decide if it's the right time for you to have sex. What matters to you is the most important thing, and your values may not match those of your friends. Each one has his or her individual opinion and that’s what makes one unique. Having sex to impress someone or to make your friends happy or just to prove that you have something in common with them won't make you feel very good about yourself in the long run. True friends don't really care whether a person is a virgin — they will respect your decisions, no matter what.

Misleading Movies

Sometimes you would be misled by TV shows and movies into thinking that every teen is having sex. Writers and producers may make a show or movie plot exciting by showing teens being sexually active, but remember they are only acting and hence they do not have to face real concerns. They don't have to worry about being ready for sex, how they will feel later on, or what might happen as a result. What is shown in the films are stories and not real life. In real life every teen has to take his or her own sexual decisions.

Bad Boys and Greedy Girls

Sometimes you want to keep your boyfriend or girlfriend happy but you don’t want to compromise what you think is right. As with almost every other major decision in life, do what you think is right and not what others decide. If you think sex is a good idea because your boyfriend or girlfriend wants to have it, think again. Anyone who tries to pressurize you into having sex by saying, "if you truly cared, you wouldn't say no," or "if you loved me, you'd show it by having sex" doesn’t actually care for you or your feelings. ..... ?id=9621" Read More