The beginning stages of childhood are over. You all made it through in one piece. Through all the worrying about head lice and diapers, you survived it all, now you can celebrate.

Not quite.  Thank your lucky stars that at least now you are getting a full night of sleep every night, because you are going to need it to cope with the road ahead.  Just when you thought the tough part was behind you, it is only now just beginning but here are some basics to help get you through it all.

Expect defiance. It is used to learn and test the waters. this is normal and only lasts a couple years.  The best way to deal with a teen, especially if they are upset is to remain calm, and speak slowly and listen.

Don’t be afraid to ask questions and get answers, the don’t ask don’t tell policy doesn’t work real well.  Ignoring things or avoiding subjects that are uncomfortable for you is not a good way to parent.  You need to deal with the issues head on and the more you know the better equipped you will be to handle your child and the problems that may come up.

Remember, most importantly, you are not their friend. If your teen didn't need someone to care for them and guide them, you could be a friend. But, they need guidance and your support, even when no isn't the answer they want to hear. Be brave and firm, keeping your cool, even when they try to guilt you.

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