Writing a wedding speech, much less actually giving one, can be a daunting and even frightening task. If you happen to be one of the people expected to give a speech at an upcoming wedding, be it your own groom speeches or one at which you are the best man, or even a father of one of the happy couple, there are several things to remember.

First, and most importantly: Don't panic. It's important you remember that a wedding is about the bonding of two people in love, not about a wedding speech , be it yours or anybody else's. There's no chance of ruining a wedding just because you've fumbled over a few words in your wedding speech or perhaps you aren't the world's best wordsmith. It's supposed to be a happy day and everybody is supposed to be having a good time, so don't spend it stressing over a wedding speech that will be over in a few short minutes.

Secondly, tell anecdotes about the newlyweds. Not only will a wedding speech come more naturally once you start to tell a story, but people will love it, and so will the happy couple. Never feel reluctant to tell a funny story or joke, even if it might embarrass the couple a little, not only will the audience enjoy a good laugh, but hearing their response will put you at ease for the rest of the speech.

Practice your groom speeches in front of a mirror. This might feel a little silly at first, but it will help in the long run, as well as give you a chance to practice keeping eye contact with the crowd and using hand gestures. You don't want to be standing in front of a crowd staring at the ground stiff as a board.

Be sure to keep your wedding speech relatively short, three to five minutes should be fine. It's okay to go a little longer if you have the confidence and your audience is clearly enjoying it, but don't overstay your welcome.

Understanding your audience is important, sense of humor can vary wildly between different people, so make sure don't say anything in your groom speeches that might offend anybody or create an awkward situation. That said, if you know the occasional crude joke will appeal to your audience you should go for it. However if for example you're the best man and only know one side of the family, best play it safe and keep it clean. You don't want the brides parents questioning the kind of people their brand new son in law hangs around with already.

Finally, don't be afraid to ask for help. There could always be something you forgot to mention that somebody in the family could remind you of. It might also be a good idea to talk to everybody else who is expected to give a speech, as it could be embarrassing if it turned out that more than one of you were planning on telling the same story in your groom speeches.