Whether you are the groom, the best man or the father of the bride, being given the task of speaking at a wedding is full of honour. However, it also comes with great expectations and the feeling of nervousness. It does not matter if you are usually cool as a carrot in other situations, performing a speech in front of hundreds of people can bring out the worst in all of us.

Take Notes

Rather than just delving into "How to Write a Wedding Speech for Dummies" from the library, inject some of your own personality into it. It would be all too easy to copy someone else's text word for word and simply changing the names within it. However, this would take away any personal input and will probably sound too stiff; anyone who knows you well would be able to tell straight away that those are not your own words. Make some of your own notes, brainstorm if you like about the couple's relationship. This can begin to form the basis of your speech.

Be Inspired

If possible, speak to other people who have been in the same situation as you and have had to speak at a wedding. They may be able to give you some tips on how to clam your nerves or how long you should set aside to write your speech. This is what I did and I learnt some very expected things. I was expecting to be told to sit down in a nice quiet room with no distractions and write until my heart is content. However, this seems to work for very few people, as it feels forced and not at all organic. In fact, a good friend of mine told me to carry a notepad with me everywhere I go for a few weeks before the wedding. Speaking to people in your day to day life might spark thoughts into your opening line, so quickly write it down! Eventually, you will have a pad full of lines and great ideas and you can gel them all together later on.

Remember Your Steps

Rather than dance steps, which you will be practicing later on in the evening, remember the stages of your speech. The general rules are to begin by introducing yourself to the audience, they might not all know exactly who you are. Talk about your relationship with the newlywed couple and how you came to know them both; I am sure there are a few good stories in there somewhere. Now depending on your role in the day, you can thank the family and friends for attending and then speak of some relevant anecdotes for the day. Towards the end of the speech, you must thank everyone for listening and then comes the most important part, the toast. Raise your glass and speak a heartfelt message towards their future filled with happiness together.

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