Being a reveler at weddings is great, but at times you'll find that you can't find a way to attend a wedding due to some unforeseen incidents. It could be due to a sick child or perhaps a prior gathering that you must attend. You should still show your support and good wishes to the couple. And if you're a relative, you can do that with a gift.

As always, one question remains, what is a proper wedding gift to give if you are unable to get to the big event? This is a thing people worry about and it is definitively up to the individual that has to decline the invite if he or she would want to get a wedding gift or not. If you are not attending the festivities, you have your options open - whether you want to give a gift or not.

The most appropriate gift that one can offer rests on the relationship to the bride and groom. If you are closely related to the couple and you know you can't attend, then you are obliged to offer a gift to compensate for the fact that you won't be there. On the other hand, if you are a distant relative or friend, you can simply decline the invitation and let them know about the fact that you'll have to miss the occasion.

The crucial thing to keep in mind is to let the couple know that you are unable to attend the occasion, and to give a credible reason. It is crucial to have a valid reason for not attending the biggest happening in a couple's life.

This is why, while inviting, people usually put RSVP on their invitation. It spells out "Répondez s'il vous plaît" (‘respond please ' in French), and allows people to make proper preparations considering the number of expected guests.

With regard to the wedding gift, usually folks also present gift coupons to the joyful couple so that they have the option to celebrate their marriage at a special place, whether it is a spa or a restaurant.

As an alternative, if you are not able to attend the big day, you may look into making a video message to relay your wishes to the happy pair, and include the reason why you couldn't get to the momentous event. You can be certain that it will be enjoyed by the newlyweds and they are sure to remember this gesture.

You can also send a standard card to the couple, just be certain that the message is sincere and thoughtful. To spice things up, you can hire a singing crew and make it look like a singing telegram to jazz things up. It's a little thing you can do to embellish their occasion as well, and you'll reserve a spot in their hearts. Naturally you can always choose from the more traditional wedding gifts.

You can come up with many options to compensate for your absence and it is your call for sure, but be kind and let the pair know beforehand that you are unable to be there, and the reason for that. You may choose gift certificates, greeting cards, or video messages, but don't forget to let them know that you can't be a guest at the wedding, and give a valid reason.