The only right tone for your big day is one that molds to your life.  Taking some time before you begin organizing the big day to figure out what tone works best will help you pick the right elements to make your wedding unique and great.

Pick the right focus for your big day.  Have a conference with all of the important people involved with the big day to decipher the most integral parts of the big day.  Keep in mind that everyone will have a different thought of the superb wedding.  Getting the processes written on paper will make the following plans at least somewhat smoother.

Select the function of the wedding.  A nice wedding will have different attire, food, area and other structures than a very organized ceremony.  At the same period, you do not want to wear a cathedral length train outfit to a beach wedding.  Choosing the business makeup of the ceremony will structure future thought processes.

Pick the invites.  Let the wording and the structure of the invitations show the focus and formality of the ceremony.  Hand calligraphy usually presents a more structured tone and emailed invitations definitely say informal.

Select the correct spots for the wedding and for the receptions.  A church wedding can be clothed down to be less formal but it is difficult to make up a beach wedding and make it appropriate.

The personality of your ceremony should reflect who you are as individuals and as a couple.  It is fine to get input from others involved in the ceremony but the appropriate tone for your wedding is one that reveals you.