Your girlfriend has left you and dumped youin the most gloriously nasty fashion by announcing that she has left you for another guy. The only thing that hurts worse than being dumped is being dumped for another guy. The good news is that you can get her back from her new boyfriend and probably more quickly than you even imagined.

If you really want to get your girlfriend backyou should know that most rebound relationships don't work out. Perhaps your girlfriend and her new boyfriend have been sneaking around behind your back for a while now. Of course, at first the relief of not having to sneak around will feel wonderful for them but along with that much of the excitement of a clandestine relationship goes away also. They no longer have the wanting and needing something that they think they can't have. It's sort of like wanting a new possession and the downer that you feel sometimes after you get it. It's just not that special any longer and it's just another thing that you have. Do you understand?

The same thing will happen with your girlfriendand her new boyfriend. Relatively quickly her new boyfriend will see that she is not always a perfect little angel and she can sometimes be kind of moody. She will also see that this guy that was once on his best behavior for the short periods of time that they spent together is no different than any other guy. The honeymoon it typically very short lived with rebound relationships and you can use this to your advantage.

You typically won't have to wait very longbefore they breakup and you should be doing your homework in the meantime to make sure that you are poised to be there for your girlfriend once her new boyfriend does mess up. And he will mess up. You can count on that.

You should try to open the lines of communicationwith your girlfriend while she is still with her new boyfriend. Let her know that you always valued her as a friend more than anything and that you want to remain friend. Women typically can't resist this sort of thing and it also helps them to feel somewhat guilt free about how she dumped you. Take advantage of this new found friendship at some point within a couple of weeks of her agreeing and contact her when he isn't around so she can help you with a problem that you might be having. Stress at work or family problems are a part of everyone's life. Use some small crisis as a bonding event for you and your girlfriend. She will already know the people you are talking about and talking with you through your problem will seem familiar for her and she will start to feel that connection with you once again.

Of course, your presence in her lifeisn't going to help with the new boyfriend and chances are he will pitch a fit if or when he finds out that she has been talking to you. Use this to your advantage and let her know that you will abide by her wishes but that you wouldn't let your new girlfriend tell you who you were going to talk to.

If she stops communicating with youjust step back and wait for her to dump her new boyfriend and open the doors to talking with you again. You will be the logical person she comes to after she is done with that chump. If she does keep on talking to you just wait for her to start opening up about troubles that she is having in her new relationship. It is only normal for her to start comparing him to you and typically all the bad memories from your relationship will fade leaving only the pleasant ones.

It may be difficult to hear her talkabout her new boyfriend but if you really do want to get her back it is necessary for you to grin and bear it a bit. Learn how to be a good listener and also how to talk effectively with her so you can take advantage of this time to rebuild your relationship and steal her back from that guy who stole your girlfriend. After all, it isn't what you say to a woman that is so important but how you say it that gets the results that you want.