Are you wondering how to get your ex boyfriend back?

I will share with you essential do's and dont's, to start the process for setting you in the right direction to winning him back.

Being dumped by your boyfriend can be extremely confusing, painful, and can cause grief and anxiety,
specially when most likely you are still in love with him.

The worst thing you can do is to allow desperation to take hold of you and start endless calling or trying to text him.
Having him see you desperate, or needy while feeling the pain, may make things worse for now.

To start the process of getting him back, you need to try and understand, why did he get up and leave.
First and foremost, GET OUT of the house, or where ever you reside, parents home, apartment etc. Do not sit at home, trying to remedy the pain with isolation, chocolate and sodas.

Go to a park nearby, a cafe, somewhere where you can sit by yourself, (no friends for now) with no interruptions, have a pen and piece of paper close by as you sit down, and go over these thoughts, as silly as it may sound, you need to evaluate the pros and cons, while you were in the relationship, the good moments, and the bad ones too, don't be in a defensive or "point blame solely on one another" mode.

Make a list, of things, you both agreed and disagreed on, likes and dislikes, beliefs and arguments, yes this seems, like it will be task consuming, but the goal here is to get him back, remember?
While you are compiling a list, you may smile, or even feel anxiety and grief within that moment, as you are naturally reliving the relationship, you had with your ex boyfriend, stay strong while doing this.

Its obvious a few key points will start to stand out, that didn't quite catch your attention while together, that is the whole point of doing this checklist.
Ask yourself,

1. Did you not go out enough, hanging out with other couples, or friends, or maybe going out was too much?
2. Did the way you dress up, please him, were you too revealing, or too ordinarily plain?
3. Were you too friendly or flirty when out? Or anti-social?

There can be many points to write down, and wonder about, the in depth meaning is enough with the examples listed.
I'm sure you get my point though, and what you may need to add, or subtract within your check list, to start the right track to getting him back.

The most powerful approach to getting him back, is you need to change the ways you were, plain and simple enough, both of you had a circle of friends, as most couples do, do not disappear from your circle of friends, as tempting to be anti-social may be, you need to get out there, even if he is present, as the case may be sometimes, smile, do not show him your pain of grief, and start using unconventional methods, (Do the opposite of what you were used to doing always, in other words) your ex boyfriend, needs to see and hear, you going on with your life, by doing this, you also will make him realize the mistake of him dumping you, and your worth as a partner.

One of these friends within your circle, will surely tell him, or he may once again see it for himself, how you seem strong, unaffected, and just going on with your life.

DO NOT, get revenge by trying to use jealousy to get back at him, it will surely back fire on you, as most of the time ends up happening, your goal here once again is to get your ex boyfriend back, not make him go further away.

With time, you will see that by you not calling him, seeing and hearing of you, day by day, living your life out there in the world, and not secluded, or closed up at home, will peak his curiosity, more and more, make him wonder what he gave up, and also you having changed your style of who you are, as you have started implementing new methods of your way of being daily, will surely pave the way to getting him back.

And the most powerful and final tip to use, if need be.
After a few weeks have passed, and you have made changes on that checklist you wrote down, and worked on, if he hasn't made the first move to contact you, then it is a good time, to pick up the phone, and just give him a call, and say: "Just wanted to see how you are doing, and if your free some time, lets go out for a coffee" don't under estimate the power of him hearing your voice after a few weeks has passed, it will open up memories for him, to hear your confident voice, and as is the case, 99 out of 100 times, he will call you back, and so starts the process of getting back together with each other.

By: Reeder Hardy