The question of how to get back a girlfriend certainly isn't a new one. Many men ask it once their relationship ends and they come to the realization they love their old girlfriend. The problem is that the majority of those men don't put a lot of careful thought into the actions they take. They just go with the flow and inevitably, in many cases, they alienate their girlfriend even more. You don't want to mess this up. In reality, you've really got just one chance to get her back. Based on what you do she's either going to run back to you with open arms, or run away from you forever.

Here is a list of techniques you should be following to make her love you again :

Apologize to her.It doesn't matter one iota if she broke up with you or if you were the dumper. You need to swallow your pride and apologize for all your wrongs. Whatever you did during the relationship that got under her skin and whatever role you played in the break up is what you're going to make amends for now. A simple and genuine apology is best. Don't overcompensate by bringing along a gift or flowers. That will look like a bribe to her. Say you're sorry and mean it.

Tell her you're okay with the split.No, this isn't lying to her. You are okay with it because you know in your heart that you're going to eventually get her back. What you're trying to accomplish here is to show her that your life didn't stop when the relationship ended. You're also sending her a very subtle, yet strong, message that you can survive without her in your life. It's called rejection and once she feels it, everything will change.

Stop calling her constantly.For many men this is by far, the hardest part of the plan to make her love you again. Barraging the woman with phone calls or dropping by to see her constantly to beg her to take you back screams of desperation. Each time you do that you devalue yourself in her eyes. Pick your self esteem up off the floor and make a promise to yourself to stop talking to her for a month. It's not that hard. Just approach it as a day-to-day journey.

Have fun.As much as you may feel like your life came to a screeching halt when the split happened, it didn't. Life goes on. Instead of spending all your time alone replaying what you two used to do together, go out again. Start hanging out with old friends and make new friends. You'll be more vibrant and appealing if you appear to be living a fulfilling, enjoyable life. This will also make the time fly by until you talk to her again.

Once you've taken these steps, reach out to your ex again. Send her an email or text just saying hi and seeing how she is. This will open up the lines of communication again and by this time, all her unpleasant feelings surrounding the break up will be gone and you two can begin again with a clean slate.