You have broken up and you feel broken up inside. You feel you  have lost someone very special and are desperate to get back together. You feel you want to bring back love into my life.

Although there are never guarantees, there are ways to make a reunion not only possible but likely. So take heart and stop feeling too sorry for yourself, as no one like self pity. Now you have some work to do – but isn't it the most worthwhile project you have ever had? So it really is worth putting in the effort to get this right. And what suits one couple may not suit another – your plan has to be individual to you – but there are general principles which can guide you, and make for a successful outcome .

To bring back love into my life you will need to take a hard look at what went wrong – and what part you played in this? But don't spend hours over the "what if" question  - that is perhaps the worst phrase in the English language – or may be "if only" is even worse? Don't go there. Calm you mind and look objectively at what went wrong. Too much analysis can paralyse action, but you do need a little insight. "How could I have done better?" is a much more productive question.

How would you do it next time? You do not want to get back together only to repeat the breakup again. So, if there is a next time, "How would I act?"  "What would I say?" Your partnership will be even stronger than before if you make the adjustments you need to make – more loving and more caring, more aware of your partner is feeling. If you really want to bring back love into my life, you will need to do your research to find the best ways for you.

Communication is the key. So many couples don't communicate. You can see them talking at each other, each so eager to have their say, yet not really attending to what the other is saying – or perhaps not saying. You will need to be honest – and if an apology is in order, it will need to be done in a genuine manner.

There are many Internet guides for you to look at, and following a proven plan of action will bring the best results. But don't spend too long looking as you need to move soon. But first take a calm look at what went wrong and your part in the break up. Then you will feel ready to "bring back love into my life".