Losing the man you love can leave you feeling hopeless and lost.  Its no wonder why people are unable to think rationally after a break up.  Just about anything you can think to do will not work in this situation.  The proven method to bring your boyfriend back is to control yourself, not him.

You may have zero control over his actions, but you have 100% control of yours.  Here are the 3 things you must do to bring your boyfriend back.

Avoid Desperate Actions-90% of what people do to win back their ex simply pushes them farther away. Begging, claiming your undying love and using any other means of getting your exes attention are simply going to make him resent you more.

Leave him alone right now and work on yourself. Particularly pay attention to any issues that you could improve in the relationship. Think hard and be honest about what you could do better the next time around.

Learn How Men Think-Understanding even the basics of male psychology will give you the upper hand. Here are some key points about what makes men tick:

-Men want what they can not have
-Men are attracted to strong willed women
-Men need to feel admired even more than they need to feel loved

These three male traits are why desperate actions are not appealing to guys. Knowing this can give you the upper hand. Use this knowledge combined with what you know about your ex to your advantage. You can get pretty creative with this one!

Do not be his emotional safety net-In an attempt to be friends too many women try to give their ex boyfriend a shoulder to cry on during tough times. This is a vein and unsuccessful attempt to win him back over.

If you are not together do not be his emotional support group. You can listen to his problems, but do not help him fix them.

When you are his girlfriend he can have all of your support, but while you are broken up he needs to be reminded of all the reasons you are important to him. Men need a shoulder to cry on worse than women think, so do not give it away so easily.

The proven method to bring your boyfriend back is self control. Working on the issues you could have improved on in the relationship shows him that you are serious about making things work. You can not manipulate some one into loving you, but you can remind them of why they loved you to begin with.