There is a step by step method to getting your ex boyfriend back, but you may not know what it is.  That really isn't your fault because there is not an obvious way that you are taught how to do it.  It is a hit and miss thing many times.  You might end up just making things up as you go along or consulting with friends, who will also be making things up as they go along.  You won't have a clear idea of what to do unless you get your hands on some material that presents a proven plan for getting your ex boyfriend back.  After looking at the plan you will have to take action in order to actually succeed at getting him back.

As a first step you need to preserve your own sanity by taking a break from your ex boyfriend.  This will not only help you but will prove to your ex that you are ok on your own.  You have got to get away from any fixating on him so you can have the mental space to concentrate on your own desires apart from the old relationship.

This does not mean you should be spending time alone.  It is healthier to connect back up with friends and family who will be willing to help you get through this rough period.  You don’t want to sit at home crying and thinking about your ex boyfriend and the relationship, for an extended period of time.  If you are serious about figuring out how to get your ex boyfriend back then it is not wise to become a sad loner.

One of the better ways to figure out how to get your ex boyfriend back is to seek the opinions of others.  You want to know what they saw as the downfall of the relationship.  I'm sure your friends and family would be willing to offer up what they noticed.  You certainly have your own ideas as to what went wrong as well, but seeking the opinions of outsiders sometimes enlightens you as to what really was occurring.  Your ex boyfriend may have also said a few things as he walked out, giving you a clue as to what he saw as the problem.  Take all of these into consideration.

Once you have gathered all of the opinions from friends and family about your relationship with your ex boyfriend, it will now be time for you to weave in your own opinion and pick what you think are the most valid points.  You are going to have a variety of opinions and some of them may not seem valid to you, but others will.  The final decision is going to be yours to make.  Maybe after taking in all of the opinions you decide that you don’t really want to get your ex boyfriend back.  Sometimes that happens.  Maybe you can see the truth more clearly now that you have taken a break and gotten these new opinions.  Maybe you are at ease now with the breakup and are having a better time dealing with the idea.  Just make sure you are now clear as to what it is you really want to do.

After all of that, if you are still determined to get your ex boyfriend back than your next step will be to give him a call to see how he is doing.  But you have to do this in a calm manner that makes you look more like a good friend. Tell him how you feel, but not in a dramatic fashion.  You will then be on your path to winning your ex boyfriend back.