Do you want to get your girlfriend backand the quicker the better? Has this breakup really turned your world upside down? All you want is to get back together with your girlfriend and put all this nastiness behind you. You have searched everywhere for advice on how to get her back and asked everyone that you know for tips on what to do to get her back and nothing seems to be working.

Much of the advice out therewill tell you to wait a month or more before trying to get her back but you simply can't wait a month. Your heart is broken and you are worried that if you wait a month she will be with someone else. This is a very real possibility and the reason why you should get to work as soon as possible if you ever stand any chance of getting her back.

The best advice on the planet is, of course, not to make a move until you have a plan in place for exactly how you are going to get her back. If you are anything like most guys you have already tried talking with her or pleading your case by promising that you will change anything that she used as an excuse to break up with you. These methods never work and they actually tend to make things worse.

You see, by begging and pleadingor even agreeing to change for her you are actually killing what little respect she may have left for you. If you have done any of these things it might be a good idea to hold off for at least a couple of days before trying to implement any sort of plan to get her back. It is agreed that a month is way too long to wait before trying to talk to her but a few days is probably enough time to show her that you have done some thinking and make her wonder what happened to you.

Just like any negotiations,whether it be in business or in relationships, it is not so much what you say but how you say it. This should be your focus when you do talk to your ex again. She will be expecting you to continue trying to convince her to get back together again. This is why it is important to avoid the subject of the breakup and getting back together. Make sure your voice is strong and that you sound upbeat and positive if you are talking over the phone. Keep your conversation short and ask her how she is doing.

If she asks how you aretake this as a good sign and tell her that you're doing fine. If you had been acting a little crazy there is no need to apologize but just explain that you're back to normal. Maybe even tell her that you knew that it was difficult for her to breakup with you but that you are grateful to her because…. And then stop there. Tell her that you just wanted to check on her and that you should go. Tell her that you'll see her around or talk to her soon and to tell her mom you said hi or whatever and end the conversation.

This method is a very good way toopen up the lines of communication and get your ex interested in what you have to say. With this opening you can recreate the connection that you both once had using various methods that will lead to the two of you forgetting all about the breakup or you can actually put the shoe on the other foot and have her apologizing to you for quitting on you and your relationship.

Just remember, it's not so much what you sayas how you say it and it is entirely possible to end your breakup as soon as tonight if you know how to lead your girlfriend in the right direction. Begging and pleading never work and promising to change only makes you appear weak and needy.