When you see the love of your life walking away after the breakup, you go through a cycle of emotions. You feel sadness, heart ache and anger. The anger leads to thoughts of revenge. This is normal, because when you are hurt you want to lash out at whatever caused the pain. But if you want a future with the man you love, don't think of ways to get even. Get your ex boyfriend back instead.

If you tell your girlfriends your feeling of getting revenge, they will be glad to help you think of ways to do it. This is alright if you only fantasize and do not actually follow through with the act. Being mean and nasty to your ex will not get him back. It will only make him resolve to stay as far from you as possible. When you get over your anger, you may have another problem. Your conscience might be bothered so much by the evil thoughts you have had about revenge that you will want to call him and say you are sorry. This will only make him bewildered by the apology and if you tell him why you are apologizing, he might feel that you are unbalanced and dangerous.

Another bad idea when it comes to getting your ex back, is thinking that if you make him jealous he will love you again. This tactic usually works just the opposite way. He will either feel that you are over him and moved on and there is no use trying to get you back or he will see through your ploy and be put off by it. If you truly love him and want your ex back , do not resort to revenge or jealousy. You have to show him respect and honor his need for space. This might go against all of your instincts, because you will think that unless you stay close to him, he will find someone else. That will not happen.

The best course for you to take following the breakup is one of ignoring your ex boyfriend and concentrating on your own life. Take more interest in your job and get back in touch with your family. Take up a hobby or do volunteer work. Anything to stay busy and take your mind off your ex. If you give him the time and space he needs, he will start to miss you. This will be the first step to getting your ex back. Soon he will realize what he has lost and he will make contact with you. When he calls, do not cry or beg. Try to be calm and cheerful. If he suggests meeting for a talk, agree and let him take it from there.