It is a popular belief that men are from Mars and women are from Venus. This stands sadly true in various aspects, as you might have discovered in the recent relationships that you have been engaged in. And if you had put on all your war paint (make-up) to go out there and change all that, most of the time you failed. No, let us face it- you always failed. The reason? That is so because men are built that way, it is in their genes to be different from women, and perhaps that makes the world even more interesting. Imagine all your wishes came true and the men behaved as women- that would certainly be rejoiced by girls who prefer their own sex rather the opposite one! But what about the others? It is thus better to be careful for what we wish, since they might come true.

Ever wondered why your dear boyfriends, all of them, behaved uncannily in the similar fashion when you turned a little cozy towards them? Why did they turn away when you moved closer, and leave you altogether when you thought that both of you make a lovely pair and was daring enough to say it? Well, science has the answer for you. Women are biologically more insecure than men. They are incapable of engaging in more than a few sexual relationships at a time, for after every physical consummation, it is she who gets pregnant. And this is the time way before different devices for preventing conception came about. And this insecurity is laid in women's genes, and they always look for the perfect mate who will be capable of not only fathering her own child but also in maintain security in the relationship. Men however, are biologically more capable of having sex with many women at the same time. They have the upper hand, and commitment to a relationship is a big deal for them.

You must know that men like the chase more than merely keeping the prize. So if you had been encroaching upon his life even more than necessary, in the pretext that you are hopelessly in love with him, you were actually smothering him. Ask yourself, did you smother your ex-boyfriend? And trust experts when they say that smothering is the sure way to lose your guy in ten days. It is selfish actually, if you smother him, and expect him to put up with it. You will have to keep the guy interested in the chase, and smothering will only have the opposite effect. Make him run after you, and never give him the impression that you are there for him, for that is when he will start taking you for granted.

There are various signs that indicate smothering. Have you been calling up your man for more than once every day? Hello, here is a hardcore truth- men do not like talking much on phone, especially with the same woman. Did you insist on spending every weekend together? And that he should always keep you as his shadow wherever he goes, even to his parties where people do not know you? Did you never let him have his own space sometime alone, and go out with his buddies, and not act like the committed man for a change? If so, you were choking the guy for he felt claustrophobic in the relationship, and so he left. Moreover, did you ever promise to stay away from him and his friends in a party only to break it and show up uninvited?

Remember that you are not his trophy doll, so he would not like to flaunt you everywhere and to everyone he knows. More than that, to him you will become the liar since you broke a promise. If all there are true, then indeed you did smother your ex-boyfriend.

It is only when you become apprehensive of losing the guy that you start smothering him. It shows not your love, but your insecurity in the relationship, where you persistently ask the same specific questions. You want constant assurance about the future, and you start nagging him. Remember, when you have a boyfriend, keeping him drooling for you is the simplest thing in the world, only if you know the formula of success. Men like mysteries, so stay aloof sometimes. Do not tell him everything about yourself and your life. Let him do some guess work here, and he will be at your tail to know more. Tease him, they like light games, and you surely can play with them to keep them interested! Remember, if you did smother your ex-boyfriend, there is no reason for you to lose heart. You can still change.