If your ex boyfriend ignores you and you're still in love with him, you're stuck in a very difficult place. Many women find themselves facing this exact situation and their natural reaction is almost always to try harder by contacting him more and more. If you've been calling your ex boyfriend, leaving him voicemail messages and he doesn't return your calls, you need to take a step back and face the reality of what that means.

When you call your ex over and over again, or send him lengthy emails or texts trying to iron out the problems that lead to the break up, you are making a huge mistake. If your ex boyfriend ignores you each and every time you try and contact him, that's a warning sign that you are making the situation even worse. After a break up men tend to need time to sort through their emotions. This is even true if they are the ones who did the breaking up. If your boyfriend told you that he needed some time or space and then ended the relationship, you need to respect that. If you keep badgering him with phone calls or emails, you are not only disrespecting him but you may as well hang a sign around your neck that says "desperate."

You can get your boyfriend back even if he is ignoring you right now. The first and most important step to doing that is to mirror his behavior and start ignoring him. No more contact with him. Pretend that you've forgotten his number, delete his email address from your address book and try and focus on other things. If you are constantly trying to contact your ex, he is going to resent that. If you stop contacting him, he's going to start wondering what's happened to you. Once he realizes that you aren't desperate to get back together, it will make him start to question the break up. Men want what isn't easily available to them, so if you make it clear that he doesn't have your heart or your attention, you'll stand a much better chance of getting him back.