One of the first things people do is to beat themselves up after a break up rather than simply finding a method to get their ex back . Problems occur in the best regulated of lives.

Opportunity

This may be an unusual take on things but look on the situation for the opportunity that it is. If you never had problems (and believe me you'd be miserable in consequence) you'd never grow. Lick a problem and as overpowering as it seemed at the time, you're that bit bigger for having handled it masterfully.

This you can do with this problem. I know it and deep down  you know it. You can without the greatest difficulty bring love back into your life.

Goals and dreams

Another useful tip is to be wary of the advice thrown at you from all quarters.  For good measure, it's usually free and unasked for. You know more intimately than any other party your situation and your partner's situation too. And your goals and dreams. Have you told the givers of advice everything? Do they know enough to advise you competently? A lot of people ‘like to help'. But don't lose sight of the true value of most free advice!

Wise Reflection

While endless pondering on how things might have gone isn't usually productive, what can be is a little wise reflection on your true compatibility. Falling in love is easy. Falling in love with the idea of being in love is even easier. But it can help to reflect: are we really going the same way? Do we have mutually compatible goals.

For if you haven't rekindling the relationship may be not be worth it. In this step be truly honest with yourself.If having looked there isn't only affection but something much more substantial to work towards, then go for it.

But you needn't rush to the person gushing. That might frighten them away again. Take it gently. Suggest a meet-up. You should find that if there is a solid basis for a relationship you'll know it and feel it when you meet. Just don't preferably get together in a place where you'll run into old mates, old ex-boyfriends/ex-girlfriends. That would be a complication.

Take a look

There's so much more I'd like to share with you. And there's no end of intricacies you may run into. That's why I strongly suggest you take a look at at least the first page of what you find here:  it's helped thousands of others who had all but given up hope getting their ex back. If there isn't material that can't straight out help you and substantially, I'd be most staggered. Take a look