When you cannot communicate with you ex after a breakup it makes the situation even more difficult. But repeatedly calling, emailing or texting him won't make him change his mind. Instead he will become more frustrated with you and clam up even more. After every breakup there are a lot of emotions involved. Yours are panic and desperation and his are frustration and determination to get as far from you as possible. An emotional woman can make a man's life hell. But what are you to do with someone that refuses to listen to your pleas and promises to change? The answer to that is give them the space they asked for. If your ex boyfriend won't talk to you and you want to get him back, the best thing you can do is ignore him and give him time to think and sort things out.

This will also give you time to take a step back and think about what caused the breakup and why he won't communicate with you. If a lot of heated words were exchanged during the breakup or if you did something to seriously hurt him, he probably feels that he is justified in not talking to you. You can take comfort in the fact that sooner or later almost everyone has misgivings and second thoughts about breaking up. Your ex boyfriend is no exception. If you give him the time and space to think and calm down he will eventually communicate with you. Another thing you will be doing by honoring his wishes to be left alone for awhile is showing that you put his wishes above your own. When you repeatedly stay in his face despite his wishes you are showing him that you want your wishes served above his. This will cause him to be wary of getting back in a relationship with you because he will fear that this will always be the case. You will put your wishes over his always.

If your ex boyfriend won't talk to you and you want to get him back, don't ask mutual friends or relatives to try to talk to your ex and let him know how much you love him and want to be with him again. You don't need a referee or a go between. In fact, many times your ex will consider the problem between the two of you to be personal and resent you involving others in your affairs.

Your best approach is an oldie but goodie. Since he won't take calls or answer emails or text messages, your best bet is to write a letter. People will generally read a letter because it seems more personal. Besides he will no doubt be so surprised to get it that curiosity will get the better of him.

In this letter you should pour your heart out. Hold nothing back. Tell him how you regret the breakup and apologize for causing him pain. Be very careful not to accuse him of any responsibility for the split. Tell him you love him and miss him and would be very appreciative if he would just give you a few minutes to explain your actions in person. Keep it short and simple and don't try to explain everything in the letter. You are going to want to save your best ammunition for when you meet. Be sure to have a well thought out plan for the meeting so that you won't make any mistakes that will set him off again and ruin any chance of patching things up.