Every relationship has its rough spots; there are no "perfect" unions. However, if you have earnestly tried your best to make your relationship work and it's not happening, at some point you must decide when its time to let go. You will eventually be faced with the question, "is my relationship worth saving?" If you and your partner are seriously willing to work on the relationship it would be wise to first sit down and communicate your thoughts and feelings with each other. One of the biggest downfalls of a relationship is the lack of communication. Have you experimented with ways to breathe life back into your relationship? Maybe you have already tried these things and they are only effective for a short period of time.

I am a firm believer that love can conquer all things and work miracles. Let's face facts there is no way that two imperfect people are going to have a perfect relationship. There must be compromises and many "I'm sorry" spoken along the way. It is also true that two people that are not truly in love with each other will not be able to weather relationship storms for very long. If there is no love, no commitment, there is nothing for which to work for.

Take this simple test to gauge the level of love and commitment in your relationship. Write a list of the people you most enjoy spending time with. Is your spouse or partner on that list? Do you really enjoy spending time together? When was the last time you went out and just had fun? Is it possible for the two of you to do that? Are you content just being with them? A good relationship between two people is going to be one where they can enjoy being together or can feel content just having the person there. I know from personal experience that I can be in a crowded room and all I see is my partner. I can sit there laughing and talking with my partner for hours and if that room should totally clear out - it would make no difference to me just as long as we are together in that place. Is that how you feel about your partner?

Your relationship should feel good and is supposed to be a place where you can go when you need comfort and understanding. One of the greatest qualities a partner can bring into a relationship is that of being a good listener. If you find yourself looking elsewhere for comfort, for a listening ear, or for someone that considers your feelings; then obviously your present relationship is not meeting your needs. Is this a relationship worth saving?

However, if you have separated and honestly believe that the relationship is worth saving, you have the option of getting back together. If there is love, there is hope and that's all that is needed to start patching things up again. This time instead of trying to work things out on your own, seek help through informational books on relationship building and how to solve common relationship problems. Seek professional counseling or advice from friends who have long successful relationships. You don't have to go it alone because you areneveralone when it comes to issues surrounding relationships.