The key to getting your ex back after a breakup is to make him miss you. Anytime you miss something you once had, you will fight to get it back. The reason that you are feeling so alone and desperate is because you miss being with your ex boyfriend. Making him feel the same way will make him want to be with you again. If that sounds too simple, it is not. After a breakup, getting your ex back seems like an impossible task and that is why you make it harder than it needs to be.

When you are telling your man that you cannot live without him, he has no urgency to get back with you. If you are constantly in his face by calling, emailing and sending text messages, he cannot start to miss you. He can only miss you if you are not around. That means that the more distance you put between you, the better his chance of missing you. Therefore, you must cut off all contact with him entirely. Let him experience his life without you for a few weeks and his attitude will change.

When he broke up with you he was sure that you still loved him and would try to get him back. But, if you disappear, he will be confused and wonder if you did really love him. Your ex will feel that you are somehow rejecting him and he will feel like he is the one that was dumped. Since men cannot stand to be rejected or dumped, this will begin to drive him crazy. As long as he thought you were sitting around crying and waiting for him to call, he was in his comfort zone. Now, you are causing him to lose that comfort zone and it is being replaced by anxiety.

When he broke up with you, he never intended to lose you. He just wanted to go out and have some fun and maybe date a little. If things were not what he expected, he would always have you waiting. But, you are not playing his game and this will make him see that he might lose you. His first move will be to  send you an email and ask you how you are doing. This will just be to test the water and see how fast you will answer. Do not answer his email or any of his phone calls that will follow. Keep ignoring him and he will become desperate to get you back .