If you've just been through a breakup, you're probably wondering,"Can I get my ex boyfriend back?"at least several times a day.  Every relationship is different, so every break up is different.  But there are some things you can do to help get him back.

If your breakup happened recently you mind is probably always pondering"How can I get my ex boyfriend back?", especially when you are alone, and the house is quiet.  Every situation is different, which means you breakup is unique.

Even though your relationship is different, there are steps which work to help get him back in most situations. The first thing you must do is be nice.  Yes, you must stop all the finger pointing, and arguing.  Do you want to be right, or back together?

You would believe many people think nagging, complaining, and whining are good ways to keep someone close.  You know how much you hate it, so do they.  If you have been guilty of nagging, whining, or fighting, you are just giving him even more reasons to stay away.  If he feels every meeting is unpleasant, you will see him less every week, until he is gone forever.  You must be pleasant, kind, and nice.  Do not try to fake it, you must learn to feel it.  Think how much you want him back, and how much you care about his feelings before you lash out.

Speaking of faking things.  If you feel you must pretend, or fake your feelings and desires then you must ask an important question, why do you want to get him back?   The question turns from"Can I get my ex boyfriend back?"to"Why do I want my boyfriend back?".You need to feel authentic, real, and able to be yourself in your relationship to have true happiness.  Make sure he can be himself, too.

You will be amazed when you start being pleasant how he will start being pleasant back to you.  Soon you may both be wondering why you are apart.  You will start noticing all the good things about each other.

While you cannot change what has happened in the past, you can heal many wounds.  Make sure he knows you took him for granted and it will never happen again.  He may have taken you for granted, but do not demand or expect an apology.  You have earned what you want, your love back in your life.

Some other things you might be thinking of trying could either be disastrous or they could work in your favor.

Can I get my ex boyfriend back if he has already found a new girlfriend?

This is a big challenge to overcome.  Your efforts need to be directed to making sure he knows you are still around, still find him attractive, but without pushing him.  By making sure you take time to look your best, to act friendly, and not desperate, he will start to see what he is missing.

Can I try to trick my ex boyfriend into coming back?

You need to drop the idea of tricking anyone right now.  It is dishonest to start with, and creates a situation which can only lead to heartbreak.  Even if he never finds out, you will always know and it will trouble you.  You need to focus on methods which build your relationship up, not ones which may bring it crashing down.

Will jealousy help to bring my ex boyfriend back?

This is definitely a double edged sword.  If you are wanting to date because it feels right to you, then it is fine.  He may come back because he recognizes what he is missing.  If you start dating with only the purpose of making him jealous, this falls under the area of deception.  You should never do it.

These questions, answers and tips are a few of the ideas on winning your ex back.  These are what T'Dub and myself like to call the beginner's steps.  If you want to learn more ideas, tips, and learn the step by step method with the greatest odds of success, come on over to my blog at Get My Ex Back Tips .  I'll introduce you to T'Dub, one of my mentors, and share more great ideas with you.  Make sure you check out the videos, they are found right at the same place on Get My Ex Back Tips .