When you have decided that you want your husband back, it is more important that you set out to get him back permanently even if it takes awhile than to rush in and just try to get back together quickly. You want to make sure that you have sorted out all the problems you had in the past. Once you have a clean slate then you can move on towards an exciting new future together.

To get your husband back here are four stages that you need to complete.

• Eliminate all the past negative issues you had with your husband.  Think about the reasons you use to argue. Were there things you did that drove him mad? Can you get rid of this behavior once and for all? You will not be able to get together until these conflicts have been sorted out.
• Think of all the things he loves about you. Can you accentuate them? It is not only your looks, though that will help, but all the things he loved. If he loved your adventurous spirit then show him you still have it by going out and taking on more challenges. This will get back to him even if you are not in contact. You will be surprised how he reacts.
• Do not try and force the issue of getting back together, try and be patient. You want to let him think it is his idea. Attracting him back rather than confronting him and demanding is far more successful.
• Depending on why you broke up, you might need to apologize before he is ready to consider giving your marriage a second chance. If there was a specific behavior to apologize for you do not need to apologize for everything else that went wrong. It is never a totally one sided situation.

Think about what attracted him to you in the first place and try to become that person again. It is not a matter of looking like you did 20 years ago, but be the best you can be now.