How long will it take you to figure out if you want to get an ex girlfriend back? The process is up to you, but you need to make a decision.

A lot of guys are not sure if they want their girlfriends, but it's evident when they first walk out the door. Other guys wait until they're dating someone else to realize the new girl is not for them.

If you really want to get your ex girlfriend back, you have to use the same steps that it took to get her in the first place. When you want someone bad enough, you will try to work hard to understand the situation.

Stay smart, fit, and upfront with the situations. A lot of guys feed their pain with food, beer, and alcohol which is not a good idea.

Too much self-indulgence can add weight around your sides. Those 'love' handles would be developed from the anger you have towards your ex girlfriend. It's not worth it so hit the field with confidence and look for a way to get through the troubles.

If you really want to get your ex girlfriend back, consider chilling with the guys for a while. Go out. Change. Another way to get over the circumstances is to date someone else that you might like. You don't have to like her all the way, but you can chill out with the chic until you settle your thoughts.

You're a free agent at this point because your ex is probably with someone else. You can do as you please by seeing whomever you want. Your interests are your won in which you deserve. Don't set out to hurt some other girl because your ex girlfriend hurt you. Make sure that the other girl knows her position as a friend and nothing more.

Think about your previous relationship and what it did to you. Do you want to go back to that or do you want something more? In order to get your ex girlfriend back without strings, make this clear in your mind.

Be fresh and original when approaching this situation in a calm manner. If you want your ex girlfriend back, you have to own up to your mistakes and the ones that continued to hurt your relationship. You also have to accept the break up as official in order to find a new start possible. Do not dwell on the past because it can hurt your chances even more.

Get yourself together,completely. Build your security within your own mind, heart, and soul. Listen to your gut when it tells you to make the right decision and then contact your ex to start over.

Never pressure your ex girlfriend back into a relationship. Keep it simple, straight forward, and honest throughout this new beginning. Let her know how you feel, what you've been up to, and how you would like to be her friend.

Pay attention to her responses; is it easy? Is she welcoming or are her defenses up? If you sense the latter, just continue with a casual conversation instead of discussing the relationship until later.