Did your boyfriend break up with you?  This is a rough time in your life.  You are probably hurting and want to know what caused your boyfriend to break up with you.

First of all, while you can use this time to look at yourself and where you are in your life, don't do too much introspection.  The truth behind why your boyfriend broke up with you is he had his own issues.  You know what they say, "it's not you, it's me."

If you are going to try to get your boyfriend back, you need to know the following things:

1.    Don't pester him. When your boyfriend broke up with you, it meant that you will have limited access to him.  Don't text him multiple times a day or call him constantly.

2.    It's okay to flirt with other guys in his presence.  It may even make him want you back more.

3.    When you do get back together, go for a "trial date". Be cheerful and friendly but don't pressure him for more than he can handle.

However, if you have a feeling in your gut that the relationship is over, then you need to move on.

One of the first things you can do after your break up, is to sit down and write a long letter to him pouring out your heart.  You can talk about the good times and bad.  You can tell him what a jerk he is and call him all sorts of names.Don't mail the letter!Instead, take a candle, match or lighter and burn it.  This is one of the best ways to get closure after a break up.

The next thing you need to do is a property exchange.  Give him back the t-shirt that you love to sleep in.  Get the econ textbook you lent him.  If there are things like toothbrushes that are too trivial to exchange, throw them away.  Don't have anything around that reminds you of him.  If you have gifts that he gave you, box them up for the time being.  If you have any money issues to resolve like debts to the other or a joint checking account, get them sorted out.

After you have completed the property exchange, agree that you won't have any communication for 30 days.  This may be hard if you are used to seeing each other on a daily basis but after a break up it is necessary to give yourself some space and distance.

It hurts a great deal when a boyfriend breaks up with you.  But it isn't the end of your life.  You can even look at it as a good thing because it means that you are now free to meet your true soul mate.

Of course, you shouldn't jump to the conclusion that just because you've gone through a break up that all of the doors are firmly shut.  If you think you have a shot of winning him back and that's something you want, you should by all means take the opportunity to do so.

True love really can conquer all things, even a break up.