Breakup - How To Know If It's Really OverWhen a relationship breaks up, there's a way to tell if it's really over. The person who leaves is the one who determines the fate of the relationship. What you need to understand as the person who was dumped is that you have more power than you think. Rejection is never easy but it is what you do with it that will make your man want you back. Walker #1 If your boyfriend walked out on you because he's had enough of putting up with some very specific behaviors that have been talked about over and over again, he truly loves you but have come to the end of his rope and is only trying to get you to wake up to see that something needs to change. This kind of walker does not want to throw the whole relationship away but is creating a crisis in order for things to change. If you are willing to get the message, then this person is still willing to do whatever it takes to make the relationship work. Walker #2 But if your boyfriend walks away, unwilling to make things work, does not want to go to talk to you or take your calls, he may be DONE and has a plaque with "It's over!" on the wall in his mind. This is the kind of walker who already has plans about starting a new life with someone else or already has. This person has had their exit strategy for a long time, felt trapped, no longer loves you, is prepared to shut down everything that you do to try to save the relationship, and gave up on you a long time ago. There's no "US" in your boyfriend's mind because he has already checked out. As the songs goes, "You've got to know when to hold em and when to fold em." If you're dealing with walker #2, the most extreme action you can take is to cut them off for a while and move on with your life - NOW. This is not easy but will help you create the level of respect that may cause him to seriously regret ever leaving you. Start showing that you're walking too by following techniques that works to push his emotional buttons and it will you MORE power than you ever dreamed. A funny thing happes when a woman puts her killer heels on - men start to beg for her attention. |