When a breakup happens you always hear the woman saying how can I get my ex boyfriend back? You have the urge to run after your man and tell him how much you love him and want him back. But you have the best chance of getting him back if you make him think you do not love him anymore. Men always want something they cannot have. Look at the way he chased you when the two of you first met. That was because you were unavailable, but once you became too available to him his interest began to fade.

Your biggest battle right now is to follow your head and not your heart. You know in your head that the best thing you can do at this time is to stay away from him and let him have his space. But your heart and emotions are telling you that you must get him back before he gets involved with someone else. This is not going to happen anytime soon. He is hurting as much as you are. Although he may have been the one to initiate the breakup, that does not mean that he has no feelings. Given enough time he will work out his problem and begin to miss you.

When your ex boyfriend begins to miss you, he will realize that he has not heard a word from you. This is not what he expected. He was all prepared for an onslaught of phone calls, emails and text messages. He could even envision you accosting him in some public place and causing a scene. When this doesn't happen, he will wonder what happened to you.

While all this is going on in your ex boyfriend's life you should be thinking of yourself. You have to find a way to stop filling your mind with getting your ex back and occupy yourself with other things. The best way to do this is to get away somewhere. Go on vacation or visit relatives out of town. When you get back, connect with friends that you have been neglecting during the relationship. Go out and have some fun. You cannot keep going the way you are - losing sleep and not eating.

Instead to make him think you do not love him and make your ex boyfriend become desperate for your love again, make sure he learns that you have gotten over the breakup and are moving on with your life. When you do this, it will make you seem unavailable to him again. This will take him back to the beginning and he will be chasing you again. Do not be too easy to catch. Make him work for you, but at some point if you want to get your ex back, you will need to have a talk. Make sure you are prepared when this time comes, because it could be crucial to your future with the man you love.