Your girlfriend has dumped youand you are overwhelmed with heartache. You would do anything to get her back but nothing you are doing seems to work. You want her back so badly and you feel terrible about the breakup and would do anything to go back and do everything all over again. Maybe you cheated on her or took her for granted. Or maybe another guy stole her from you.

The honest to goodness truth isthat you can get your girlfriend back. Most guys make so many mistakes just after the break up though and completely destroy any chance of ever getting their girlfriend back. See if you have tried any of these relationship killers hoping that you will be able to get your girlfriend back.

Romantic Letters– Romantic letters, emails and cards might have been great when you were together with your girlfriend but right now you're broken up. Chances are your girlfriend is actually turned off by any romantic writings from you. For her it's probably too little too late and this kind of contact from you comes off as weak and needy.

Save the romantic wordsfor after you get back together. Even save any poems or letters that you write to her for after you are back together to show her how much you do care for her and to show her how you never wavered in your love and devotion to her. Just remember… after you get back together, ok?

Apologizing Profusely– Once again, apologizing for any wrong doings only comes off as weak and needy. She knows that you are sorry. You only have to say it once. She heard you but right now she probably doesn't want to listen. In her mind it doesn't matter because you are broken up and the more you push the less she cares and the less respect she has for you.

Save your sincere apologyfor once the lines of communication open up again and be wise withhowyou apologize. Understanding how she feels and why she might feel a certain way speaks volumes more to a woman than promising that you will or won't do something. Your words must stand the test of time and all the rest is just empty promises from a desperate man who wants her back. So save your apologies for once she sees that you have changed and shows some interest in getting back together.

Waiting Around– As much as allowing some time to pass before initiating contact with your girlfriend in the wake of a breakup, waiting around forever hoping and praying that she will just decide one day to want to get back together with you is foolish. Yes, allowing the smoke to clear and for emotions to return to a somewhat normal level is wise but don't wait too long. She might think that you really don't care and wind up moving on to another relationship if you aren't careful.

The key to getting your girlfriend backlies in knowing when to initiate contact and how to help your girlfriend move past the issues that you had without being confrontational. Nobody has to be right or wrong and guys that are successful in getting their girlfriend back are those that know how to defuse the breakup and make their girlfriend fall back in love with them again. Knowing what to say and how to say it can make all the difference in the world.